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2007-11-19 22:11:34 · 18 answers · asked by Third P 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Great question!!
It is my firm belief that the prime requirement for 'perfect' or 'fast and lasting' friendship is a proper complementary fit (just like the key and the levers of the lock)..... human beings are unique, meaning each one is different compared to any other. Therefore it seems logical that the perfect fit may not be found in too many people...... moreover, once we have found a great complementary fit with a friend, we lose the initiative to find similar fits with many more, just as once we have the right key, we do not keep trying other keys to check if that would also work or not.
2007-11-19 22:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by small 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-11-20 08:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because friendship is based on having common values and most people have different values. I'm not talking about just moral values, but all kinds of values/interests. Plus, we only have time for a few relationships. Perfect friendships take up a lot of TIME.
2007-11-20 06:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure about psychological or physiological compatibility, but I would beg to differ that willingness is the key. For example, I don't want everyone to know everything about me. It's fine to confide in a few people that reward it well, but anything more than that just doesn't seem to work out.
So there must be a willingness to confide in/bond with a person, and a willingness to return it. Once both of those are achieved, a close relationship can be formed.
2007-11-20 06:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by yarr! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Third P,
I'm not sure I agree. No relationship is 'perfect'. Even those that have lasted years (and I've been married for thirty years) suffer from ups and downs. I love my family; they are my world but again we still have our upsets and misunderstandings. I have many friends and acquaintances. These I could not class as 'perfect' relationships. Satisfactory and reasonably happy ones.
I try to see the good in everyone as no-one is perfect. We must accept people for their strengths as well as their flaws. That's the perfect solution!!
Pollyanna
2007-11-20 08:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by pollyanna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The word "Perfect" is banded about like confetti. What's perfect to you , isn't perfect to others. Perfection is all in the mind , looking for our 'own' Utopia. Some people find this , but the majority of the time , it's never met.
2007-11-20 06:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because perfect friendships take time patients and forgiveness to build and most of us give up on building those relationships
2007-11-20 06:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by funcplinvic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because If all of them were perfect we wouldnt have any criteria to compare them and choose the perfect one.
ANd remember everyone is unique , just like their fingerprint , so perfect match is also unique :)
2007-11-20 08:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True friends are hard to find. Trials could make friendship grow and stay for keeps.
2007-11-20 07:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by maconsolviaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One good friendship is a great thing, more is a bonus.
2007-11-20 10:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Tony.S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋