My partner on purpose waited years played harmless games tested me before he said he was in love & proposed marriage to me later when he wanted to do it earlier.He says he knew all along he was in love & wanted to make me his wife.We just made out not consumated our relationship.He played games tested me.Should i wait till marriage hold out he wants to make love have kids now.Since waited years to hear he loves & proposal of marriage.Hes single in 30s powerful successful professional im in 20s professional.
Not played games tested in return here i want kids he knew it.He truly deeply loves me wants to make me his wife why wait years to say & propose marriage on purpose.He says hes late should have done it earlier not later.He wants to make love have kids now we are committed.He said he knew all along he loved me wanted to make me his wife.This doesnt involve any girl or other guy we love each other committed to marriage.Serious answers.Breaking up or therapy not options.
2007-11-19 21:46:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go together for a break romantic holiday
During that time give an ultimatum leave or love
2007-11-19 21:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right, or, what your heart tell you that you should do. I will, however, share with you my own personal experience: I fell in love with my wife when I was 12 years old, just a kid, and for the next 10 years I tried to get her to date me, even kiss me, anything, and never gave up. I dated other people, I did my own thing, but she was the one I was saving my true love for. Over this period we became the best of friends, talked every day, but still, nothing more. Finally, when we both got out of college, she had gotten out of a bad relationship, and decided to give me a chance. We began to date, and I proposed to her two months later. We got married a month after that, and our son was born 9 months later. We bought a big house in a nice neighbourhood, and then our daughter was born 5 years later. We stayed together in a happy marriage for twenty years, and then out of no where, she wanted a divorce. She began to date other men, and moved out, and a year later we were divorced. I still love her, and I always will. It's all about your priorities. I don't know exactly what it was that I did wrong, but if I could go back I wouldn't change a thing, because I did all that I knew how to do. If you're ready, then you're ready. If you're not ready, then that's all right, but you have to put your priorities in order from greatest to least, and see where marriage and commitment falls on that list.
2016-05-24 07:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by diann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
For years you are in love with him and he was in live with you. There is no other girl or guy. You are both happy with each other though he had tested you by his ways in between. But the fact is that even without a marriage, you two held on and stayed loving each other. Now he has proposed and you are wondering why he did not do earlier? I think you should ask the uestion yourself as to what this guy means to you and whether you really love him. You are nos distrusting him though you waited all these years for him and only had relation with him. Hon, seriously think what you want. If you are not comfortable with him, just move on. But dont let silly things to affect the long held on relation at the time when it is getting serious.
Take care..
2007-11-19 22:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have played games as you say, but you stuck around for the ride. obviously there was something in it for you. If you are not sure about getting married then don't... Personally, I from the sound of your question you need some therapy or something. Maybe time to grow and mature... Marriage is a life long commitment, not something that should be taken lightly.... He was probably considering all of this... Making sure he was ready to be a good husband... God bless****
2007-11-19 22:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just marry him and don't worry about it, but I would ask him since he has waited this long, why won't he wait till the wedding night and make it that much more special, instead of making love now. It is possible that the reason he waited is the 10 year age difference, or it could be that he wanted to be financially secure before getting married, or have a certain amount of money saved first, ask him why he waited, he's the only one who can answer that. As for making love, do it when you are comfortable. if u want to now, go ahead, if u want to wait till the wedding night, wait. but you love each other, you are getting married, wait till after the wedding to have kids. then you know you won't be marrying for a child, but because you want to.
2007-11-19 22:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure f your question, but if it is to have sex and kids before you get married, after all this time, what is the rush, wait till you get married, and make it as romantic as possible, you have the rest of your lives, I would suggest get married, then make love but try and wait a year to have kids, you need to have alone time first while being married
2007-11-19 22:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by hollytu514 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what difference does it make NOW. you both have want you wanted the bottom line. you wanted to be his wife. you are still young you have waited this long so what harm will it do to wait till you are married to have the kids. hold out and just start planning for the wedding soon. GodBless
2007-11-19 22:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you love each other, well, what are you waiting for? "The flame of Love" that GOD have given you and your man is the most precious love that ever happened to you for you both love each other. So, after marriage, go forth and multiply :)
Take care, best wishes and GOD BLESS!
2007-11-19 22:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together this long, what is the problem? Just make him marry you before you start having kids.
2007-11-19 21:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was just saying that to cover up the fact he wasn't ready for marriage or he thought you both needed to mature a bit
2007-11-19 22:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋