2007-11-19 21:04:35 · 13 answers · asked by smily 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Superb question... extremely relevant but really tough to formulate the answer comprehensively!!
In my view, knowing the truth by itself can never be harmful unless it is delivered like a shock.... I would therefore always expose the truth to the one I love truly, taking abundant care of course to deliver it with a lot of love and concern....... more importantly, it is only when one knows the unpalatable truth that one can try to alter it to get to an acceptable situation.... furthermore, I find it difficult to believe that the beloved would ever pardon me for deliberately hiding the truth.....
most importantly, if we hide the truth because we think that knowing it will harm the beloved, then our love is not true.... let me explain this further..... just because we love someone, it does not give us any right to judge and decide on his/her behalf and if we do that, it is not only preemptive but also authoritative (treating the beloved at a lower level than ourselves)......
On the basis of the above, I would say that except for my own kids at their formative age when we need to be authoritative despite our love for them, in no other case I can see a justification in deliberately hiding the truth from one whom we love truly!!
2007-11-20 16:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Timing is everything and the way you express it. The harm from a truth is far less than the harm from its accidental knowing. Giving the truth with purpose is far better than purposeless secrets. There is more pain in the facts in this life than pleasurable until you grow up to them. Hidden facts are not usable for growth, but retardation absolutely with unequivocal certainty.
The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative.
2007-11-20 22:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why hide the truth to your loved ones? I would rather expose the truth to my loved ones rather than learn from someone else. Besides there is always goodness in truth. Being true to oneself is being also good and honest to your loved ones. Exposing the truth easily solve the problem. So why hide it if you can use your loved ones to help you face the problem. They are there as a helping hand in the first place. Who would help you first but those you have loved and loved you.
Thanks for asking. Have a great day!
2007-11-20 05:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Third P 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you love them, tell the truth about important stuff but use discretion on inconsequentials. Without lying, you simply don't tell them everything [salespeople do it all the time]. The trouble with lying - to yourself or others - is that inevitably it comes back and bites you in the backside. Thus, the person is doubly hurt by the truth and by the fact that you deliberately withheld it.
2007-11-20 06:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by FRANsuFU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's nothing the person can do about what you're telling them, and the only purpose that will be served is that of hurting the other person, then no.
Mark Twain said: "Lying is universal - we all do it. Therefore, the wise thing is for us diligently to train ourselves to lie thoughtfully, judiciously; to lie with a good object, and not an evil one; to lie for others' advantage, and not our own; to lie healingly, charitably, humanely, not cruelly, hurtfully, maliciously..." I'm guessing he thought the judiciousness should extend to white lies of omission as well.
2007-11-20 06:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, I see the logic in letting sleeping dogs lie.
I believe the truth, or as close to it as you can express, is worth the effort. It is a kind of faith for me, it works for me & others. Missinformation to those who trust you screws them up even if they never find out. To develope ones intuition, it needs to be callibrated along side information known to be true, from family & friends. Every situation is different, whatever you deside, don't let it get you down.
2007-11-20 05:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Regwah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should never lie. Sometimes not saying anything is a good answer. Truth is very important. there are ways you can tell them the truth without bringing it out like a sledge hammer...
2007-11-21 06:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, if it's something serious like a cheating spouse then yes, if it's something like they'd look better with bangs, then wait for them to ask. however, once they do ask, then i feel it's okay to give them an honest answer, but you have to be honest all the time.
my boyfriend does that and i've learned if i don't want to hear the truth, then i don't ask and if he tells me something good, then i know it's for real...but it does hurt, sometimes quite a bit.
2007-11-20 05:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by miss macy zane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how the truth will affect the person in question. But my opinion is no, you should not.
2007-11-20 06:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by T Delfino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nt always a right thing to expose al d things to ur loved ones. u have to check out those things b4 ur gng to say. defintly the bad things willl get bad image 4 u.
2007-11-20 05:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by vinodh g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋