How do you live single after so many years of taking care of someone?

Question

I found out my wife was having an affair for 2 years with someone who thought she was divorced. She lived two lives and is now with him for good. I havent been single for alot of years and now it's time for me. Where do I start? Never did much but work, but realize it's time to live a little.

Answer 1

let your heart heal a little, start seeing a theripist. Go to an adult education class at your church for singles. They have a blast as a group of people learning to live alone. They see movies have popcorn parties and dinners in each others homes. They are especially a God send during the lonesome holidays who knows you might find yourself whith a bunch of guys as new bestfriends and maybe later...a new girlfriend. Just don't push for anything like that right now. go easy take care of yourself and the kids(if any) and just take life in.
I have said this before on here but I want this to stick in your head tonight.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to end.
It's about learning to dance in the rain"
good luck my friend :)

Answer 2

you start taking care of YOURSELF now. You have an opportunity to start new...it may not sound like a great deal now but hopefully you'll come to enjoy your new life, freedoms, friends, hobbies....worry about you from here on out.

Answer 3

just do things that you find enjoyment doing.explore your city, call the chamber of commerce and see what they have to offer, just get out of the house, you will never meet people sitting in front of a computer or TV

Answer 4

sue him personally for alienation of affection. blame him for your divorce and legal expenses
get satisfaction of costing him money for legal fees and tie him and her up in court. do it pro se so it doesnt cost you anything other than court fees
get satisfaction knowing you are ruining their day and bankbook
good luck