Help with a friend?

Question

There's this one guy who used to be my friend, but I realized he was kind of a jerk. I try not to hang around him or talk to him, but unfortunately, he's friends with some of my best friends, and I end up hanging around him a lot. Things have been kind of awkward between us for a while, and it creates a tense, uncomfortable atmosphere when we hang out. One of my friends kept on asking me when I was just going to be friends w/ him again ( I got mad because of all the stupid stuff he does, like ignoring me and trying to make me look stupid in front of other people, inviting people to my house w/o asking me, etc.). The friend that asked me to reconcile w/ him is a good friend of mine, and I like him a lot (not in the weird way). But he keeps trying to bring us together, and I have no interest in being his friend. Whenever I hang out w/ that friend and others, he almost always insists on inviting the other friend, and it just makes things more awkward. Thanks for your help.

I know my former friend pretty well. We were on friendly terms for about two years, but he just really annoys me. I honestly just want to punch him in the face every time I see him, but obviously that's not a very smart thing to do.

Answer 1

If your friends that are friends with him are people that you really like to hang out with then you'll probably just have to put up with it.
My best friend and her boyfriend have a guy that they bring along (mostly her bf's friend) all the time. But I'm kind of used to it, we make mean remarks to each other but that's it. All I can say is stand your ground when he's around you or puts you down. Otherwise find new friends, but be honest about your bounderies with the guy you don't want to be friends with.

Answer 2

This guy is going to be hanging around, but that doesn't make him your friend... just an acquaintance. Accept it for that and inform your good friend using those terms.
An acquaintance is someone you don't need to worry about or stress over whether you see them again.
If you get tired if this guy's presence, walk away... or ask a friend to talk with you privately, and you say to this guy "please excuse us".

At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.

Answer 3

find somethings all three of you like to do. then start talking about it. and get to knnow him better