just them naturally being themselves irritates you, but you dread it because going out into the world means your going to be exposed to them.....theres no way of quarentining yourself from them?
all you want to do is avoid them and have nothing to do with them...people who talk to much.....who think they know something about anything....who play mind games........who you just simply dont like.
how do you cope with these people that enter your world?
2007-11-19 18:10:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds as if you are a loner, or aren't very tolerant of people's eccentricities. We all have our little quirks, flaws and bad habits. They bother some people and not others. ...that's just life. Most of us learn to love our friends, not just inspite of their irritating traits, but also because of them. We take the good and try to put up with the bad, or just ignore it, because we realize the friendship means more than a bit of aggravation once in awhile.
2007-11-19 18:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have to deal with people you would prefer to avoid, you try to limit the time you spend with them, try to avoid being alone with them, don't encourage conversation, and don't encourage them to interact with you any more than is necessary. Beyond that you just try to make the best of the situation, UNTIL you are able to change your life circumstances and live or work somewhere away from these people. Do beware, however, that there are others of the same ilk lurking in your new environment, just waiting to present themselves.
2007-11-20 02:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you are really nice to tolerate people who irritate you IF you don't say anything. If you're like me, then you do say something and you probably should quarantine yourself as often as possible. LOL. I have what I often refer to as "verbal diarreah". I say what I think without much consideration of people's feelings or without thinking all together. I know it's rude but sometimes I just can't help myself, certain people as you said made me that way. Sometimes people just need to know that they are a pain in the ^$$. Hell, someone's gotta tell 'em right? I'm sorry if other people lack the courage to say what's on their mind. I know I sure don't. It's bad and good I think...
2007-11-20 02:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by thezenfulclover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's very typical and very easy to feel this way. i know it sounds counter-intuitive, but i believe self-esteem has alot to do with it. some would think that someone in your shoes would have too strong of a self esteem, but do you find yourself beating yourself up when you aren't able to live by your own standards?
if you really do want to learn to cope with "these people" and make life a little easier on yourself, i do suggest reading "Self Esteem" by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning. if you just want to go on being angry, that's fine too. however, you can't change anybody out there, so if you are able to bring peace to your own life it makes your view on the world a little brighter.
2007-11-20 04:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by laurie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that everybody has people that just irritate them. I try to avoid them. There are a couple of people where I work that annoy me and sometimes I can't avoid them but it often gets to the point that I just walk away from them.
2007-11-20 02:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join the frikin club. Look at all these adorable sensitive answers trying to get you to think that you should adjust your way of thinking to tolerate every single living human. let me tell you...no, let me remind you that not all of them are worth the 2 seconds it takes to breath the air in to say something to them...and it's up to you to defrenciate between those who are alive...and those who are psychologically dead inside...i swear Aliens could drop down from space and tell everyone to start meditating but they'd rather take their tylonal and watch Pimp my Ride and American Idol. They're just a mouth and an anus, and typically the 2 orphaces can be confused.
2007-11-20 02:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means you are normal.
You have a sense of what you are, and you do not try to please everybody.
Now you need to find a way to isolate yourself from these people, which probably means moving to a town of different size, or to a different layer of the society. Moving down is easy, moving up is doable, but requires hard work and education.
2007-11-20 02:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell them, that being around them is slowly but surely sucking the life force from you, and that every moment you spend around them is just one second closer to the day you just might off yourself, to rid your life of them
2007-11-20 02:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by iammindfreak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hating and liking is a state of mind. You are the maker of your own irritation and liking. Therefore train proper mind-set.Learn to live happily with the people around you.Do not feel isolated or think yourself big.Above all a BIG BROTHER (GOD) is watching us.
2007-11-20 02:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by pavamana 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i do everything possible to avoid them and NEVER to visit their homes, or have them visit mine.
if we meet at a restaurent, i have a lot more contrl about when i leave. if they come to my house, i have NO control at all.
as you can tell, i don't cope well, but i do have some techniques.
2007-11-20 02:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋