what would you think if your husband of 10years forgot your wedding anniversary?

Question

and later when reminded says its not important anymore.

Answer 1

I'd think it is time to have a serious talk with him and see why he feels it is no longer important to remember a day he was happy to ask for and had at one time wanted more than anything... that is something seriously negative and harmful to a relationship my dear...

Answer 2

I was all ready to answer with conviction that he was more than likely overwhelmed with life, and forgot one of the most important reasons for being alive...... then I read your subtext

Yikes!

I think its time to ask him, "What is important in your life right now?" Evaluate the answers, see where you stand.

Hopefully he wasn't being sarcastic in downplaying the importance of an anniversary. I for one think it is more important than most any other yearly celebration. I have only been married for 4 1/2 years, but I don't see my opinion on the subject changing much. If it becomes "not important" to remember such a life changing event as finding your soul mate, then I can't imagine what could be a substitute for that value.

Sorry to hear this .... wish you all the best.

Answer 3

I have gone through the same thing every year and I've been married 46 years. Most men are not sentimental and just don't think of these things. I would take exception to his saying "Its not important anymore". Sit him down and ask him outright. Why is it not important anymore? Is there a reason you don't feel it important? Is there something lacking in our marriage that gives you that feeling?. Something along these lines. Most likely he has other things on him mind that seem more important.

Answer 4

Well, speaking as a husband, that just reached his ten year anniversary, with my wonderful wife. You need to give him a good swift kick in the @ss. I never forget the day my wife blessed my life by becoming my wife. I still do everything now, I did when we were dating. To let her know that I love her and she is very special. You need to forget his birthday and if he asks about it. Then just answer, like your anniversary its just not important anymore. If that doesn't work, you might need to get him some shock treatment !! ..........Good luck

Answer 5

I learned years ago that with friends and relatives it is best to remind them several times about occasions that are special to you. It may seem that it should be as important to them but sometimes it isn't, or they get busy and forget, or they just don't realize how you feel about it.
It would upset me if my husband said our anniversary was unimportant...but traditionally I think men are just not as sentimental about things. You might just tell him that it is still important to you because it marks and celebrates one of the most important days of your life, and you look forward to celebrating a renewal of those feelings each year. Then let it drop and next year start dropping big hints (Wow, honey can you believe that next week we will have been married 11 years? etc) or even make the plans yourself. Planning for an anniversary is not just the responsibility of the husband, or at least it shouldn't be.

Answer 6

Well, I'm not much for anniversaries. I'm not even married yet, but I don't foresee anniversary excitement, we didn't celebrate our dating anniversaries, so why should that change? Really, the important things in marriage are the mundane everyday stuff. If he's been treating you well these last 10 years, who cares? It's a hell of a lot better to ignore an anniversary than it is to have one great day and every other day a kind of hell. If your marriage is fine otherwise, get over it. If not, well the anniversary is only the tip of the iceberg.

Answer 7

This happens at sometime or other in married lives.

First you have to see if this is just one incident that he forgot or whether he is showing similar behavior in other day to day events in your relationship. Though it is not right, Men tend to get too much into career in latter part of their married lives and some of them ignore emotional aspects of married life.

Assuming that he did not forget your 9th wedding anniversary, you need to ignore this event, openly discuss with him about your feelings and your expectations, and arrive at some nice conclusions that will take your marriage forward with new vigor.

Answer 8

He was probably embarrassed that he forgot and tried to play it off. But seriously, sometimes men get so caught up in life and what bills need to be paid and how they can make more we forget the little things. And maybe there could have been some seriousness to his answer if you never spoke of it letting him know it is still important to you.

Answer 9

Weeding anniversary is just like date of birth which is very relevant and cannot be forgotten easily as it happens normally once in a life time but sometimes in other cultures more than once. It depends and if it only one weeding anniversary I think he must be crazy if he can forget.

Answer 10

I'm on anniversary 31, and sorry to say, unless YOU make a big deal of it EVERY YEAR, the novelty does wear off...due to kids, school, work, bills, etc. If this is the first year he has "forgotten and said it's not important anymore" that sends a red flag in my radar for cheating....check his cell phone records, his pockets, monitor his spending habits and check out his stories when he is late...sounds like he is disenchanted and may be on the prowl.....I'm sorry, but I'm telling you the truth not what you may want to hear---if all checks out, then you know it's just boredom on both your parts and plan a getaway for next year to spice things up...or you can spice them up before that..........your choice