I need some good life advice!?

Question

I have a nine month old baby girl and last friday I left her father because we got in another one of our fights and he put his hands on me. My biggest problem is that when we lived together everything was in my name the phone,electric, and the lease. I'm now trying to find a job because until now I've just been taking care of the baby & house. I only have two pairs of jeans to my name and one pair has holes in the back of them and I probally have like 5 or 6 shirts. Now you see that kinda hurts me getting a job because I have no clothes. I dont even have a drivers license and those bills I said thats in my name the phone is more than 200, Power I'm not sure of that yet and the rent is more than 500. I shut the phone up there off. Tomorrow I'm going to have the lights shut of on him. I really dont know what real question to ask I think I'm just up a creek without a pattle,ya know? I just need somebody to tell me what do you think and is there anything that can help me out there?

Answer 1

Don't let your clothes be an excuse for not getting a job. You can get help. Thrift stores are great for clothes try to make it on a half off day even. Goodwill can work wonders. You need to believe in yourself and straighten up your life for your daughter. Also don't be afraid to ask for help from your parents or loved ones to get back on your feet. There are crisis centers that can help you out as well. You can do it and you will because you have no choice. Maybe start out by working at a daycare or preschool where you can take your baby with you to make some money. That is how I started out while living with my parents. I put myself back in school and am doing well now. You can make it happen. Like I said believe in yourself. Try taking online classes to get a degree, you can get grants and scholarships especially if you are a single mom to where it won't cost you a penny. It will be hard at first but it will all pay off.

Answer 2

Go to the welfare department in your city or town and file for support for your child and yourself. You should call first and find out all the paper work you need to bring with you. You can get food stamps, medical and a small amount of money each month. They do have programs to help pay for child care while you look for work. Go to a thrift store to find clothes real cheap, a lot of places have used clothes for really cheap that don't have holes in them. Talk to Salvation Army, they may be able to help you with your utility bills.
Get some counseling, for being an abused person. Don't tell him where you are. Go to court and file for legal custody of your child as soon as you possibly can. File a restraining order against him. Don't take him back, unless he goes through domestic violence, anger management counseling.

Answer 3

There is assistance available from local Social Services agencies, and legal services also. Your husband should also be paying support if he has a job. If you find yourself without power and water you may need to go to a women's shelter for a while. If you need clothing their are places such as Goodwill that have good used clothing and they sometimes donate a certain amount to people who are in need. You probably need to start by looking in the phone book for agencies in your area.

Answer 4

There is lots of help for you. Get an attorney. In Pennsylvania, where I live, you are entitled to free legal representation if you cannot afford one. Contact the family court division for the county where you live for assistance. The reason you need an attorney is to assist you in getting protection if needed as well as child support and spousal support. Next, contact the state government and get info on food stamps so you can feed yourself and your child. You should also seek the assistance of a women's shelter. Every metropolitan area has one, hopefully your area has one as well. They ought to help you find decent housing and possible even provide it for you on a temporary basis.

I wish you and your child well.

Answer 5

i do not understand how is it even possible - u didn't have a job and everything was on your name? is it even possible? and take my compassion. i also let my hubby when i had 3 kids and no job and no driving license. but at least i didn't need to pay his bills. anyway, i don't know what country u live but if u live in civilized country there re offices who help poor people and people in situations like yours. when i was leaving my skink first i went to this officce and they found me a very nice apartment near kids school, gave me money for moving men and a truck and payed deposit for apartment. so first thing i suggest u find that social help office.

Answer 6

Please run to your local church for help and the county. That's what the county (welfare) is for, for emergencies like this. Trust me I know that this will be hard in the beginning, but so worth it for you and the little one in the end. Trust me I've been there and done that.

Do not get caught up in the lies that you need to stay with a man that will abuse you just because it may be hard on your own. You can do this!

Answer 7

life's a backyard, you gotta dig it. i like that. different ones, off the main appropriate of my head: Get on with it, do not waste time as that is invaluable do not take issues too heavily, particularly knockbacks in no way, EVER, waste too lots time on a destructive or pointless courting - human beings could have their lives SUCKED up by utilising relationships that at the instant are not properly worth that is sceptical, approximately each little thing, constantly attempt to dig slightly deeper, and flow slightly greater stable

Answer 8

Go to the goodwill or salvation army and explain to them and they will give you free clothes for you and your baby.

Answer 9

go to goodwill or salvation army...for clothing food and a bed to sleep in ........