Do I need a psychologist?

Question

I think I need to see a professional...the last 2 years of my life seem like the biggest hell ever. I was dating a guy for a while over a 2 years ago, found out that he slept with a good friend of mine, I tried to forget him. Then I started a youth worship team at my church and became best friends with my 4 male team members, and best friend with one of the 4. He and I starting 'seeing' each other for a while, I told him I loved him, (stupid thing on my part, but I do love him) then a few months later he broke it off without any reasons. Then I asked the youth leaders if I could take a break from the worship, and they said yes. About a month later I asked them if I could come back and they said no, so I was seperated from my four best friends, and I was no longer allowed to lead worship. Lately. I have fallen away from God and it is scary. I have been going to bars alot and drinking and dancing with and making out with guys I dont even know. What is wrong with me? Who have I become????

No this is not a made up question...this is my life thank you...I am not looking for attention..I am looking for help.

I know a doctor or psychologist may help, but I think my problem is that I am spiritually dead inside...I dont feel God in my life anymore..and that is scary

The youth leaders will not let me come back, and the pastor said he can do nothing about it...no one in my church really seems to care...how can 'Godly' people show so little grace towards me

Answer 1

There is no shame in seeing a psychologist.
I wish more people would do it.
But yes, it sounds like you have a LOT on your mind, and not too many people to listen to.

Please do so, or at the very least talk to someone you can trust, regularly. You don't need to be going through that stuff alone, or you could go down a dark path.

You haven't become anything, you're reacting to a multitude of crappy situations in a human way.
There's nothing wrong with you.
But it would be wise to talk to someone before the opportunity for there to be, presents its self.

Be careful, and good luck.


Update: I too had gone through a spiritual decline at one point.
Observing the way people treat one another in the name of god, or just in general changed the way I feel about organized religion forever.

Just recently TIME magazine, I believe, released an article about the world renowned Mother Teresa.
http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1655415,00.html
That giving woman, suffered depression for several years of her life and also felt a coldness in her heart where she thought a higher being should have been, as she was surrounded by poverty and destruction of the human condition, but it never stopped her from loving and giving despite inner turmoil.

I don't know what to tell you to believe, because I do not know myself. But never lose your human spirituality, whether you want to put an organized label on it or not is your choice.

There are terrible people everywhere regardless or color, religion--whatever. They will exist and defy.

You'll have to learn to identify them, and keep them far away from your heart.

I assume you are going through a very tough time right now, and perhaps that kind of smothering environment wasn't for you, where people will shut you out over such silly circumstance.

You should however, be able to get back in touch with your friends somehow. Perhaps you can hang out elsewhere??

Good luck!

Answer 2

First you should go to a psychiatrist. You might be depressed and need meds. Psychologists can't diagnose anything or prescribe meds. A psychiatrist is a trained phycisian that can tell you if you need medical treatment or just therapy. Nothing is wrong with you. You are probably going through some changes. If your youth leaders rejected you after you came back from your break, then they aren't very accepting of your situation. You don't need them anyway. The best thing for you to do is to teach yourself to rely on yourself. Sometimes when you fall down, no one is there to pick you up. Sometimes that's the way life is.

Answer 3

You're in the wrong church. Go do some study of Catholic doctrine and Catechism. Any question you have can be answered, truly and definitely.
All you need is a little hope, not shame or judgment. Just hope.
Give it a try , and take some time out. Worry about your relationship with God first. The rest of the world is worse off than you for knowing little to nothing.
Stop trying to gain the approval of flawed people, approve of yourself first and trust yourself only to God.

Answer 4

There isn't something wrong with you, you're just figuring out who you are. Which, is a pretty crappy experience sometimes. If you WANT professional help, don't even hesitate to talk to your doctor about it or start seeing a therapist. They're there to help you, although it may not seem entirely successful.... stick with it for a while and hopefully you get some answers maybe some guidance. It's much better than suffering alone or drowning in the same sad stories.

Good luck! <3

Answer 5

You fell into a string of bad dudes. I am a man,and often feel bad for the crap, immature jerks pull on girls and women -- then frequently brag about their conquests, without a thought of what women have to put up with -- the term wolf, used literally, is pretty accurate. You indicate you know who the heels are: Flush them and just remain inert datewise, for a while.. You'll meet a decent guy, who may not be a dreamboat, but let your acquaintance mature into an intellectual friendship. What's wrong with you? You've been too anxious to beaccepted and loved. However you can learn to do it, learn how to meet decent guys. Some girls' sole purpose of going to college (even community college ) is to meet guys who have decided to make something of their lives, leaving behind the ones whose accomplishments are getting in girls' pants and notching their guns.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you. I've been in a similar place as you, in regards to my church abandoning me when they were supposed to be my family. I felt, I fell away from God, and I fell away from church, but in my quest to find the real answers, I found I put my faith and security in a false system. It wasn't God I was trusting but rather the physical religion and people behind it. I'm still finding God, and if there is a god, and its been they most amazing, heart breaking time of my life, on my own just me and MY God. Your God isn't angry or abandoning you. You aren't alone. You are better off and closer to the truth than you know.

Answer 7

You seem to think that God has left you but God does not move, we move away from him. move toward God and you will find your answer. you are angry because you are not on the worship team anymore and acting out by going to bars. You do not sound like the kind of girl who belongs in a bar. seek God while he can be found and wait for the peace that passes all understanding that will guard your heart and your mind

Answer 8

First of all, don't be so hard on yourself.
Maybe you NEED to see that these meaningless, purely physical relationships are so shallow and unrewarding before you really come to believe the faith that was taught us by Jesus. Of course God knows about these temptations, and it's OK to learn one way or another that as long as you eventually come to the realization of the Godness INSIDE of yourself. You cannot be separated from God, though you can fool yourself into thinking that. The self guilt does not help. The realization of yourself containing that spark of divinity as part of your very being is what will save you.

Answer 9

hmm.. i wonder y they won't let u lead worship...
idk... maybe there's something wrong w/ the youth leaders lol
well... i think talking to a pastor would be better.
go to your pastor and talk to him about this.
ill pray for you, and hope everything will turn out good! =)
also, there will be ups and downs in your life so dont let it get to you alot. also, hope your pastor wont reject you like those wierd youth leaders!

Answer 10

If you are young, and I am assuming you are; forget those people and LIVE a while! If they don't want to associate with you, they aren't worth your time. There's nothing really wrong with what you're doing, just don't let it get out of hand. No harm in living a little before you get married, have kids, and get old, in that order. Have fun now while you can only PLEASE; BE CAREFUL!!!