...she really screwed with my head at the end, had another guy on the side (which she eventually married), played house with me when he went back to his wife, kicked me to the curb when he came back. This was 2001. In 2003 she pulled my daughters from me for 3 years when I got behind in child support. I got it caught up, but still took her moving back to my hometown and a year after I had it caught up to see them again. She tries to talk all nice to me, sometimes going off the subject of the kids (not about us) but about her family or people we know around town. I just want to SCREAM: "DON'T YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE DONE TO ME??" I can't. What do i do? I am at the end of my rope with her, but I don't want her to yank my kids again. Can't afford a lawyer before you suggest that.
2007-11-19 16:55:09 · 7 answers · asked by primalclaws1974 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tried Legal Aid...they won't help because it is a conflict of interest (she got help first). There was a father's help in our capital city, but it shut down.
2007-11-19 17:03:57 · update #1
Also, I am not single, but my gf doesn't interfere at all.
2007-11-19 17:04:44 · update #2
She didnt take the kids and run, I saw them on a visitation (not court ordered) for a year and then she pulled them.
2007-11-19 17:05:49 · update #3
Be polite and tell her that you REALLY don't have time for the small chit chat and you've gotta go.... Try to keep her focused on the kids and kids only. Once you find someone new, she can act as a buffer sometimes. Until then.... You should also find another way to visit your kids. I mean reduce the amount of time you see the person.
Also, I think you should try to work through some of the leftover hard feelings No matter who's to blame....You're entitled to the way you feel. But a lot of anger is only going to hurt you and the kids. I'm sorry things are like they are for you. It really sucks, doesn't it? I've been there.....
2007-11-19 17:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. The best thing for the kids is that you get along. Shes just a user, and really be glad she's gone. I think if you get a girlfriend you'll feel better. I dont understand how she just pulled your kids. She can't just take them and leave the house. There are laws. anyhow basically move on she's not worth it.
2007-11-20 01:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have nothning to do with her. Have someone who's not in either of your families be an intermediary to transfer the children for custody. This is poisonous relationship, and in the end does you no good. No reason she can give you at this point is going to give you closure. Move on, have nothing to do with her, and build your life back up.
2007-11-20 01:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what you are doing. paying your support and just being cordial to her and only talk about the needs and concerns of the children. you really need to seek some professional counseling because she has done a number on you and you need to be taught how to deal with her and the feelings you have toward her. but in the end remember its not about you or her its about the kids needing to have a relationship with their dad. GodBless
2007-11-20 01:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is keep your mouth shut and just take it. She has the kids and if you want an easy time of seeing them, then just keep it to yourself.
2007-11-20 01:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by wife2denizmoi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhh goodness your poor thing ............... just take deap breaths when you speak with her and think of a happy place............ your children will be grown up up one day and you wont have to speak with her ever again............. only at there wedding and birthdays.............. keep your calm for your childrens sake.................. your doing great keeping your sanity
2007-11-20 01:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
contact. legal aid . they have free lawer service . /
2007-11-20 01:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋