my husband flirts? we always argue abt that, everybody tells me i should flirt in front of him & let him feel the pain. but i cant do that, i cant do that. i have to face God one day. when we try to talk abt it, i get blamed all the time. & we end up fighting. divorce is not an option.
2007-11-19 16:44:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I thought you just asked a question about this. I can tell this topic is really upseting you.
Do not flirt. You know in your heart that this not going to help the "real" problem. I have to be honest with you. When men get angry and start blaming things on you, this usually means they are up to no good. You need to talk to him about this. Maybe suggest talking to a counselor. If you've tried all your options and your husband still doesn't get it together. Please don't stay married just because that's not an option. God understands when you've put your heart and soul into someone and it doesn't work out. Remember God is based on love. If you are not getting it from your husband, than remember God loves you and he can give you a man that truly loves and respects you. Sorry to go on and on.
2007-11-19 16:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Journey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you flirt with other men just to make him jealious it will only make things worse. If he realizes that this is why you are doing it because he does he will really go over and beyond to make you feel hurt so don't play his game!There is a difference between flirting and being friendly. Stop doing certain things that he expects you to do, the extra's and the things that you know he likes you to do the most for him. Does not include cooking or laundry cause that will set him off for sure! He'll wonder why, that's when you tell him that as long as he makes you feel hurt and dis-respected that this is the way things will be! It's like taking milk from a baby!
2007-11-19 17:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Donna W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men are just flirty same as some women, its in there personality...and if he loves you he needs to hear you out and be sensitive to your feelings, counseling is a great option, take him to see someone with you so when you talk about anything there will be less fighting and more helpfull input...if you don't want to filrt and your just going to do it to even a score, its a bad idea, and i don't think its the right way to go and i know its not going help the problem just make it worse because you would be going down to his level! work it out and find help and i wish you the best of luck...and some extra advice don't let his flirting give you low self asteem...be confident and realize its not because there something wrong with you, don't let him make you loose your self worth, so instead of having to flirt like he does, do what makes you feel good, you don't need a man and that includes a husband to make yourself feel good pretty or diserable, yes men help but there are other ways instead of letting yourself go and giving the men a reason to look else where, where the grass seems greener! power of prayer and a strong faith can heal and help with anything!
2007-11-19 16:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Insidious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between flirting and being friendly and if he is flirting it would me wonder if he ever crosses over the line to more than that the two of you need a serious one on one talk about it without fighting and if he can't do that and divorce is not an option consider marriage counseling
2007-11-19 16:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not flirting that you need to do, but you could always be friendly to people--men and women alike. If he flirts in front of you, does he try to say it's not flirting that he's doing but you just perceive it as flirting? If he tries to say that he's just being "friendly" to other women, then you can be friendly to other men, not have it count as flirting in your own eyes, be able to still face God in the Afterlife, and still manage to get your point across to him that it hurts.
2007-11-19 16:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell the bum I said his man card is up for review and to stop the jackball flirting. Idiot. I make it a point not to flirt and to politley tell women who try to flirt with me which river they can jump into. Your going to get a lot of people who tell you either you should flirt to egt him back or the trolls who say "whats worng with flirting" I will personally come back to neg bomb them.
2007-11-19 16:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes flirt, by all means flirt. And just curious, how do you know for sure you'll be facing "god" someday or that he will even care that you flirted?
2007-11-19 16:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by AessaMenevrah 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
instead of yelling walk up and kiss him and say i know
now what would you like for dinner
now what movie do you want to see
now lets go shopping
you will start getting a different reaction.
2007-11-19 16:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by mkst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just flirt with people. its not like its going to go anywhere, it would teach him how it feels and you would probably feel great doing it. its very empowering.
theres nothing wrong with flirting while married in my opinion.
2007-11-19 21:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to gay bar - that should end it. People are very friendly and open minded. This way you can flirt all you want and you have him corned. ...
2007-11-19 17:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by ensoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋