answers from male and females, Do you think its alright for a husband to look at other woman while with wife?

Question

My husband says its a male thing and he will always come home to me, but when we go anywhere he eyeballs other women I guess it would not bother me if it was once and a while but its all the time. He says all men do it and it doesnt mean anything, I say it rude and disrespectful to me, guys and girls what do you think

Answer 1

The key issue is that you have a problem with it. Is the clown sitting there just noticing them or is he drooling? He;s right though, all men do that. All men with zero dignity.

Answer 2

I completely agree with you. It is just too widely accepted that there is nothing wrong with a male doing exams on a female. I also think it is wrong for a female to do an exam on a male. What really gets to me the most is when a male doctor does a physical exam, such as those needed to play sports, on a young female. Most young girls do not know that they have a choice in the matter to chose a different doctor. Do you honestly think there is nothing wrong with a grown man putting his hands on an underage female? Sure you may think that it is fine since it is for medical purposes, but what if the doctor, after doing the exam, said that he had sexual thoughts while doing the exam? Would it be acceptable since he is a doctor, or only then would you be against the idea of a male doctor? No matter how professional one is, a man can not stop sexual thoughts. If I were say I want to become a doctor or gynecologist just so I can legally put my hands on underage girls (and females over the age of 18 too) then there would be nothing wrong, right? Since it is legal and I am still helping with medical problems then there is nothing wrong with enjoying every minute of having my hands on girls and becoming sexually aroused right? It should be a law requiring anyone under the age of 18 to see a doctor of the same gender when an exam or exposure of intimate parts is needed. This coming from a 20 year old male. Edit: I forgot to add this, but the only situation that I would find it appropriate for a male to work on a female, or visa versa, in which intimate parts would be exposed or worked on would be in an emergency life or death situation. As you would obviously take the first help available to try and save the person's life.

Answer 3

I think it's fine sometimes, I don't mind when guys (past boyfriends or guy friends) look at women from time to time. However do NOT let him tell you that it's typical, normal guy behavior. I hate when men play the "boys will be boys" card. My fiance has never looked at another woman when I'm around. I even asked him why once and he said it is disrespectful and rude. If it really bothers you, its worth having a serious chat about, even if you know he will always come home to you.

Answer 4

Married woman here. I think that it's VERY rude and disrepectful for him to look at other women while I'm around. When I'm not, I don't care. I know he needs to look at other women, and that's fine. Just have the decency to not do it in front of my face, that's all I ask. Sometimes I will purposely not go out with my husband because I know he eyes other women.

To me it's like he's telling this woman with his eyes, "The woman that stands before me is nothing more than a potato sack! If you and I could get a few minutes alone, I would ravish you like you would not believe." If I'm not around to see it, she wouldn't know if he was married or not--and therefore I really don't care. And then I can accept it as the true All Men Look sort of excuse.

But hey, I get looks from men too. However, I don't think that I have power over their women. I just think the guy is a jerk for doing so in front of his woman....but I'll admit that I do at the same time find it totally flattering!

Answer 5

I find it extremely rude. My husband typically doesn't do it. But one night, we were out to dinner with my parents and there was this waitress (not ours) that kept walking by and would catch his eye. I found it extremely disrespectful and I finally said something to him about it. He acted all dumb, like I was imagining things to which I realized this was going to be one of those "Whatever!" conversations.

He may not have been aware that he was doing it (whatever!), but the waitress apparently thought she had caught his eye because she kept doing it. I mean, we were in a conversation and whenever she would walk by, he would divert his attention away from me and look at her. Rude!

The fact that she thought she had captivated his interest while in my presence, kind of ticked me off, but once I let my husband know I noticed, it stopped.

I know he wouldn't like it if the situation was reversed.

Answer 6

Rude and disrespectful. I don't do it in front of my wife ( or friends for that matter). This is my personal view but if you are that desperate to look at a women go to strip joint and get it out of your system. After a while it is all the same anyway. When I go out with my wife I give her full attention and she gives me hers. We owe each other that respect.

Answer 7

maybe it's something you two can do together, you never know you might like it! I know he will. Really though what's the harm in it? I know you've looked at other guys,who hasn't? The thing to remember here is that it's a part of human nature and you have no control over it,so why make yourself mad?

Answer 8

I have no problem with my husband looking at other women. However he is not the type to stare and be obvious about checking her out. It's just looking.

Answer 9

All men I know do it. Those who claim they don't are lying. Then again, all women I know do it, too. People look at attractive members of the opposite sex. It's human nature. Hollywood makes millions of dollars based on this (why do you think there are more Cameron Diaz's than Camryn Mannheim's in the movies?).

Looking is not the problem. PURSUING is a different matter. If he's standing there staring with his tongue hanging out that's totally different than glancing at a girl as she walks by.

It also seems to me that the women who are threatened by this are insecure because they think that "looking" means "wanting" means "I'm not good enough for him and he's going to cheat on me"...

Answer 10

i wouldnt care if my husband did it.
i know hes going to and just live with it. im not the only woman hes ever going to find attractive.
i look at other men, so he has a right to.
i know he loves me and would never do anything with any of them, so i dont see a problem.

Answer 11

Try the same way with him and see what is his reaction. That would sort things out for you. If its normal for all men then it shoudl be normal for us (woman) to show them the right path especially when they are trying go onto the wrong path.