all i did was accuse him of having an affair because he tricked his mom into getting him a cell phone he didn't need and he was hiding it even to charge. he was coming home from the first job he held more than a couple of weeks for the last 3 and a half years and he said that is the reasonhe left because i accused him of an affair. all i ever did was to keep our family together and try to make him happy as he was mean and angry all the time, he didn't even bathe. i got some kind of fungal infection that would not go away but its gone now that hes gone. hes been gone over a month and even expected me to continue to carry him and pay for his car insurance. please someone, give me some kind of answer for this behavior. i have been told repeatedly no one could figure out why i was with him as he hasn''t a lick of class, looks, and lies all the time. but my self esteem is smashed.
2007-11-19 16:36:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
would be very upsetting for you...................first thing you should do see go and see a dr and tell them about the fungal thing................ and with your hubby and his behaviour tells me he was having an affair ...if he really loved you and wasnt having an affair then he would talk it over with you and ask you why you think he is having an affair...not chuck a tantrum and move out............. he is guilty................ DONOT blame your self for his behaviour ..take care and good luck ...do not carry him anymore it was his choice to leave.
2007-11-19 17:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my self esteem would take a beating, too, if I let a loser like that into my life and didn't even recognize an opportunity to move on when I had it.
But back to the issue. His behavior was suspicious. Tricks Mom into getting him a cell phone, hides it from you to charge it, gives you an infection and leaves because you accuse him of having an affair. Hmmm.
Girl, be glad Mr. Fungus is gone. Get yours cleared up, if you haven't already, change the locks and stop footing the bill for his insurance. He's a LOO-HOO-HOO-SER!!
2007-11-19 16:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem should not be from him. It is yours to be you . You sound as if you don't love him anyway . He left you w/ the responsibility b/c he does not want the responsibility anymore and it may be wrong but it is what it is ...Class is in your head but it says something about a person who walks away . He must not love you . Maybe there is someone Else. Fungal infections are not always from cheating ... They are common. Bathing is a requirement for ALL of us . That I wouldn't tolerate in someone I was sleeping with. Because you accused him ...he may have guilt if he was cheating but what if he is not . You have damaged his ego if he was not. Maybe he realized your relationship was not healthy...sounds like it was not... . Move on ..chalk this up to a learning experience .. Go to court and the court will make him take responsibility for his financial obligations. Is he immature? There is always 2 sides to a story but the bottom line is he will be told to assume the consequences for his errors .I also do not tolerate lieing so maybe ...sounds like you are better off w/o him in your life....Love allows no one to guide your paths but together you must take the path as 1 for a life as a married couple.
2007-11-19 17:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you haven't proven that he's having an affair. If it's true that he doesn't have an affair, he got the reason to leave, it could be tiring to hear you accussing all the time. You should have proven it before accusing him. In case it's true, wives usually tends to keep the relationship intact no matter what the situation is. But the issue must be settled once & for all, is it true or not? He must stop it if he's really having an affair, else you might leave him. Do it legally. Tell him what might happen in case, of course,why you should keep on paying his insurance if he's so dishonest to you. But of course, if this can be resolved, the better. Pray also for it.
2007-11-19 16:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just going out on a limb here...cause he doesn't want to be with you anymore. Sorry to hear that, good luck getting yourself together. I could tell you all the cliches but it wont make you feel any better. Just take a deep breath, be glad to be alive and then go get your own life, cause that's the only way things are going to get any better for you.
2007-11-19 16:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by AessaMenevrah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn,and I thought I was the only one this has happened to. My husband just up and left after only 2 weeks of our marriage and did the same as yours. But, I will tell you what ended up happening to mine and the reason he gave me as to why he left. My husband is now sitting in jail with 3 felony charges, and we both know he will go to prison for awhile. He sent a message to me that he wanted me to come visit him, so I did. He told me that he left because he was extremely strung out on dope and wanted to continue living that lifestyle without me being any part of it all. Now after 5 months of him being gone, and now that he sits in jail, clean from the dope he says he wants us to work things out- YEAH RIGHT !!! I don't even begin to think so. I hope things work out for you and you find a wonderful man, like I have to spend the rest of your life with. I have been seeing another man and he showers me with love and attention and it feels great. Things do work out.
2007-11-19 20:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by marcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows that you loved him but he didn't.. he knows how to use you and take control of you.., he knows your weakness and he knows how to take benefits on that, besides you are the one who always be the last women standing to support him don't you? the reason why he did all that its because, he didn't love you anymore, and he fed up being with you, but in the other side, he still needs your financial support, that is why he's not letting you go, just think about it for at least a minute.. you should go on and find someone who truly care for you...
2007-11-19 16:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by tan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my. Don't let him define who you are. He obviously had something to hide from you. He may also be suffering from depression from what you described, and this may not have been intentional toward you, but he seems to have some emotional issues as well as some behavior problems.
2007-11-19 16:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by tlcin2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you still want to be married to someone like this?
Maybe he realized you weren't good for each other and decided to leave. It was a cowardly way to do it....but it's done now.
2007-11-19 16:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry this guy in the first place? HE needs some counseling if he's that bad off.
2007-11-19 16:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋