Recently i hv gone out of my way to help one acquintance, only to find out that she was a mean person who treated her staff in an inhumanely manner. I was really surprised cos she was ever so smiling and cheerful outwardly. She was 9 months pregnant and her baby was due anytime. Yet in her condition, she cld treat others so mean. I really failed to understand. She is young and very successful in business. I also found out that she was cheating her staff, customers and the authorities in making more money. I really felt disturbed to know that some people cld put a front. She has asked me to help her again and I cldnt say no to her cos of her condition.
2007-11-19 16:30:57 · 5 answers · asked by Sal SR 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What wld you do if you were in my situation?
2007-11-19 16:31:58 · update #1
It was not a feeling of regret of helping but a feeling of sadness to see a young lady who has been blessed abundantly treating others that way. I didnt refuse her as she was very pathetic n i knew how important it was for me to help her yesterday. Despite of knowing her personality, i am one person who cannot reject somone who needs me irregardless of who the person is. I hope I will be able to make a difference in her life and pray that she will be touched and realise the meaning of life.... not one of materials but more of kindness and compassions. Though i felt it when she treated me 'inferior' but I hv the Lord in my heart, i hv learned to take it. Thanks for yr advice.... i only helped her only when she was desperate. She wont hv the chance to make use of me.
2007-11-20 03:15:37 · update #2
Don't feel bad that you helped her in the past. You didn't know what kind of person that she was and you did what you thought was right. If you don't want to help her again, just make up an excuse as to why you can't...you're too busy or something. You don't owe her anything.
And yes, I have regretted helping someone. Just once that I can remember. I helped a roommate in college after she injured her foot. For several weeks I did everything for her, ran all her errants, etc. and she treated me like a slave and never said thank-you once. I should have told her where to stick it...
2007-11-19 16:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up to experience Sal, unfortunately there are alot of people like that around nowadays. Feel sorry for her child and husband and family, it's highly unlikely someone so self involved and nasty will become a good role model for anyone she encounters. Maybe as she matures she'll grow up, we can only hope, but until then just duck with the havoc she'll wreak on society.
Never regret helping someone, even if it's not reciprocated or appreciated. Your intentions were good and kind , we can't always control the outcome or the reaction we'll get when we try to help someone. We just keep on trying to help when we think we can.
2007-11-20 09:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was understandable that you helped her when you didn't know what she was like before. Now that you do, it is NOT right that you continue. You should have declined. Grow a backbone. Be a responsible adult and do NOT support someone who is ugly, mean, and cruel. Don't reward bad behavior. Don't support and assist her in her wrongdoing.
2007-11-20 01:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. If I choose to help someone I am not doing it for them, I am doing it for me. I do it because I want to. No matter the outcome.
2007-11-20 00:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound's like shes using her condition to get things she wants. i would politely say you cant because you have a previous engagement.
2007-11-20 00:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋