Have you ever lost anyone who you love?

Question

Have you ever lost anyone to a tragedy? How do you deal with your grief and sadness for your loved one?

My mother just passed away and it is the hardest thing in the world. I'm 21.

Answer 1

yes i lost my anutie she died of cancer and i now think that she is in a better place that she would suffer is she is alive so thinks of that SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS

Answer 2

I have lost several people who I was extremely close to, and in my experience there isn't any real way to deal with the loss. At least not at first. The pain is greater than anything conceivable, much more severe than any form of physical pain (and I've given birth -without drugs - three times). The only thing you can do is survive it, and try to focus on the loved ones you still have.

After a while, when you don't feel like you could shatter at any second, remember the person you've lost and preserve their memory. Talk to others about them, write about them, put together scrap books, draw pictures of your time together... Just do something constructive with the grief that remains, and make sure that the person you've lost lives on in your heart. Above all, don't let your grief consume you by holding it in and letting it fester and cause you harm.

Answer 3

Yes. Things happen...people die or people grow apart or people just weren't meant to be together. The best way is to take some time to deal with the grief and the sadness but then get out there and start living again. You can't stay wrapped in a shell for too long otherwise you'll become an anti-social hermit. Come to terms with it and move on. The faster you do it without avoiding it the better.

Answer 4

I watched my 18 year old sister lose her fiance', father to her child, last December. It was a horrible time for both families as it was a very unexpected occurance.He was only 20 and it was a week before Christmas. She asked me this exact question. Here is the advice I gave her.

You aren't losing him, as he will always be in your heart and memories. It is ok to cry. It is ok to be angry. It is a horrible thing that has happened. Everyone grieves in their own way, so don't let anyone tell what is and isn't ok.

With her there was a lot more, but that is the jist of it. Lean on the Lord as he will see you through everything. It does get better. It is almost a year later and my sister has tried her hardest to only concentrate on the good times and the truth that she will see him again one day. Plus, we know that he is looking down her. Sorry for your loss. Hope this helps a little!

Answer 5

Yes, I lost my father in a tractor accident. It's very hard because you are so helpless to change things. The pain just sits with you. You go through in your mind how things could have been different if....

What makes you feel better depends on you. Talk to that person in the air. Who knows, maybe they can hear you somehow. Write a letter to them. Visit their grave and talk. I like to have a picture or momento at hand. Be near other family members and value their hugs.

Time will lesson some of the pain. But certain things will bring back strong feelings and make you cry. You'll never forget them or what happened. But they would want you to continue to live your life, and be happy.

Answer 6

Passing away of any close relative is painful, however, the loss of a parent is the worst. You realise that it is an irrepairable loss, and it will fill your life with void for sometime.
Nature has its own ways to let you heal.
Though, time and patience will be the biggest healers, it will not be easy to get over this pain for a long long time.

You need to be able to talk about this loss with your family and friends. Dont keep it inside you, for it will take longer to heal.
Your mom will stay in your heart forever. She would have always wished for your happiness, and you too, should pray for the departed soul.
God is always with you and will take you through this pain.

Answer 7

I've lost plenty of friends and relatives, and there's no way to get over it, you just learn to deal with it the best way you can. It always sucks, no matter how many times it happens. I feel for you if you've lost someone. My grandpa just recently passed on, and we were very close, after all, I was born on his 54th b-day. Nothing will ever be the same, and I'm really not looking foreward to turning 22.

Answer 8

My mother-in-law and father-in-law died in an accident together. It was the worst thing that has happened in my life. I was especially close to my mother-in-law. She was so sweet and she was like my best friend. I talked to her every morning on the phone. It's been 6 1/2 years and I still miss her. Unfortunately, my husband and I divorced after a 12 year marriage after they died. They say something like that either brings you closer together or rips you apart and I guess it did the latter for us. I still haven't totally dealt with that loss, but I'm not a very strong person, either.

Answer 9

I lost my dad when I was 23. I'm now 47 and I still think of him all the time. However now it is not as painful. At first I dealt with it by always talking about him with friends and family that knew him. It helped me to remember the good times with him. It's a daily thing, as time goes buy the pain get less and less till one day there is no more pain but you will always have your memories.

Answer 10

I lost my father to cancer a few years back. The only thing that got me through it was faith in god. Praying constantly . In fact the 23 of November will be 5 years hes been gone. I miss him a lot. The second is family. There the only ones who truly know what your going through. Cause they have that same pain. So always remember how important and perishes family is.

Answer 11

We just buried last week our 18 year old grandson. He went to a pharmaceutical party and popped a couple of pills of some kind and went to sleep and didn't wake up.

Like all tragedy's time heals. Some take longer than others depending on closeness of the one you lost.