tired of it. I don't even want to attempt to start over again with anyone else because I think it will always be the same. I'm starting to see some good things about being alone. I can pick out my own house and car and the only opinion that will matter is my own. I can travel when I want and have who I want as friends. I can get a puppy to give me lots of attention and I know it won't leave me when start to love it. I'm 23 now and I realize my life is better without a man. Does anyone else feel like this?
2007-11-19 15:54:22 · 18 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I don't need a man to make me happy. I have cable that keeps me plenty happy.
2007-11-19 16:32:36 · update #1
I'm sorry honey .. did you have a bad break up? :(
What you say is maybe best for you for now. With some time with your self and enjoying freedom. A dog is nice .. so is an affectionate cat.
But when you feel you are ready than you may want to think about what kind of man you may Really like and what kind you know you Don't like and that way you will be in a better position to select who you want to date or have a relationship.
But please don't give up on men .. just give yourself a vacation from them for as long as you need and want to :)
2007-11-19 16:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
With that attitude you will be used by not only men, and women. You need to find out why you keep picking guys that treat you this way, or even why these men are attracted to you.
I am not saying you should change yourself, but if the reason you want to be alone is on account of what another human being did, then I think that is wrong. They win, because you miss out on one of the most beautiful things in the world - love.
Life is hard and when looking for 'the one,' will you meet people who are great impostors. Charge it to the game, brush yourself off, most importantly *learn* from the situation, put a smile on your face because you are still alive to try it again.
My opinion, still. But good luck, and I do sincerely hope you find whatever it is your heart is looking for.
2007-11-20 00:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Loving Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some women in life that do not need or want a man in their lifes, I believe you do, Check out the guys for the qualities your want in a man and take each ,step slowly. Do not go after the !st guys that show any interest with you date without sex or commitment until you find, maybe the right one. and remember slowly, could keep you from getting hurt again.Also take a self inventory ,of the man you are looking for
Most women are turned on by bad boys, I had a friend that aways complaint about not being able to find a man. All these guys were trying to date her and she did not consider them,and they were good men.
2007-11-20 00:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start living your life according to your plan. Continue your education, find a job you love, pursue activities and hobbies you are passionate about. Stop running after men; you're coming across as desperate. Make friends who will be there for you and that you can do things with (not girlfriends who hang out in clubs and bars). By all means, spend time alone so you can learn who you are and what you can offer the world. Keep your options open!!! Open your heart to the universe and someone wonderful will find you - guaranteed!
2007-11-20 01:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i understand your thoughts of giving up men, I've done that 7 years ago. But as I grew maturely, i was impress by God not to give up on them. What i did , i did not think of my own interest yet. I seek some good advise from trusted friends in our church male and female. I've been single all my life and I enjoyed being alone, but i thought i not getting any younger so i change my prospective and think positively that some day i should meet a special man for me. But first i have to change my attitude towards men because i had the tendency to hate them because same as you i feel they are just playing with my emotions. I gave myself a chance to be open and accept male friends again. And i was surprise i got lots of male friends and suitors now. And i read good articles about knowing men completely and i applied what i learned to the special man in my life now. And it just made me happy and complete. My secret ... i prayed and ask God for Wisdom. Give it try and it worked for me...
2007-11-20 01:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Angelique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame all men for your problems and yes I said YOUR problems. You have to figure out what is it in yourself that has you attracting no good men. Women do this all the time, they find a man and actually "see" the flaws in the guy and think that they can change little parts about him as the relationship progresses. Looks like I duck, quacks, like a duck, hell, it is a duck. People can change, but that's just the top layer, meaning, you are still the same person deep down inside, it's just suppressed. What I do recommend is that you start feeling good about yourself. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel good. Workout, eat right, go to church and pray about it, whatever floats your boat. Because think about it, if u can't learn to love yourself, how can you expect anybody else to love you.
2007-11-20 02:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage isn't for everyone. It's a calling just like the single life (and by single life, I do not mean dating and sleeping with people). I wish our society would stop forcing that vocation down everyone's throats. There are plenty of single people out there who are very happy. That is also just as important of a vocation. I'm glad that you are okay without a man. It's refreshing to hear a woman say that.
2007-11-20 01:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL this questions reminds me of my days in the past, and the ironic thing is I'm a guy!! I remember some of my gf's couldn't commit, some would always want to party, others wanted to be with their friends like 24/7, and some loved their puppies more than me!! Oh well, I found a girl like, nothing like those in the past, so hopefully it'll work out for you.
2007-11-20 00:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
LOL....up...felt EXATLY the same way as you. I got married at 19....to an unbelivably physically abusive man. Sent me to the hospital a couple of times. Took me six months, but I escaped with my life.
Went back to school, persued my interest, and had a good life. Decided I wanted to get married and have children. Found someone who seemed to share all of my interests and goals in life. Thought we were a great match. Dated for a year. Got married again at 24. What I didn't know was, if his mouth was moving, he was lying.
He was terribly emotionally & verbally abusive to me. However since I wasn't getting hit, it wasn't abuse, right? Hung in there for 8 loooong years. Finally got JOYFULLY divorced.
I was done then! No if and's or but's about it. DONE. Casual dating, for a shared interest, (like a movie) possibly...a relationship, NO WAY! I was actually very much enjoying being single, with zero attachments, or comitments. I wans't sure I'd ever find the time to date again!
One night I was on line, in a chat room. Quiet by accident I "ran into" this guy there. We had a nice chatt. Very whitty, and intelligent. We talked a lot about books.
I kept running into this guy. I finally added him to my friends list, since we had so much fun chatting. Nothing in the slightest romantic...just interesting conversation.
Well one thing led to another, and phone calls and letters were exchanged. After a year, he finally talked me into meeting him.
I honestly didn't want to meet him. I was having such a fun time, and having such wonderful conversation with him, I didn't want the bubble to burst. I figured he was lying to me about some things. I didn't figure it was his picture he'd emailed me, and I certainly didn't believe someone who was this good at conversation was as young as he stated, nor did I believe he was 6'3".
Still, I eventually decided it was better to deal with reality and meat the 50 year old little fat, balding gnome of a man I HAD to be chatting with.
I think you could have pushed me over with a feather, when this strapping, handsome young, 6'3" guy walked in.
Come-on...this was not reality! If there was a walking scumbag guy within 50 miles of me, he'd zero in on me, like a moth to a flame, and I'd be suckered in.
So who was THIS guy??!! No way could he really be everything he said he was! Umm...well, yes, he really was everthing he said he was.
The kindest, handsomest man I'd ever dated. Most importantly, he was the most trustworthy person (male, or female) I'd ever met in my entire life.
Our wedding anniversary is just 8 days from now. I'm still falling in love with him every day that we are together. He's everthing I ever dreamed of in a man. Completely trustworthy, and so very kind, loving and gentle to me.
Yup...swearing off men was the BEST thing I EVER did!
~Garnet
2007-11-20 02:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Bohemian_Garnet_Permaculturalist 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all when you search you set yourself up for disappointment. You just live your life and when you meet anybody be honest and there will be that one person that you might get a different feeling from and might decide to try once again and it has nothing to do with age. You might meet this person worth the risk in a couple of years or a couple of decades.
2007-11-20 00:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by melagumu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋