If there has always been love and fidelity....just something that tried to come between them and put a strain on their relationship for a period of time.....can a couple ever put that period of time so far behind them and become truly happy again if they both want for it to? It is too long of a story to put down here...it would require a book. It just was an intense period of time where some one from one of their past was trying everything in their power to break up the couple and one was stressed out and didn't know what to do, and the other was mad and felt threatened by it.....if both have decided not to feed on it any more and choose to let it go...can the distance that was wedged inbetween them ever be gapped. No flirting or reciprocation was involved at all.
2007-11-19 15:52:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kaboom - it took a third person to try to spoil our lives to make me realise that I wanted my husband. Same here,
a lot to go into now, but we are stronger now than ever.
You have to fight for your man and let NO ONE try to break
a partnership. Talking was the key... If there is no communication the barriers will stay up. Minxy.
2007-11-22 03:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,Let me start by stating that no marriages are perfect and every couple with have 'Ups and downs'. It would be quite abnormal if there wasn't any difficulties in a marriage! Yes a couple can put that period of time behind them if they stay optimistic and strong.Many couples with find that they get further and further apart because of a past issue or complication. This is quite normal . Have you had Marriage counseling? Even though you have simply put this issue behind you Marriage counseling sometimes helps make your marriage stronger, so maybe you should try options like that to try to strengthen the bond between you. Just try to be faithful to each other and work this out. I know that it is easier said than done, but if you both put continuous effort into the relationship and appreciate each other things should eventually work out. If you really love each other, it should work out!
Hope this has helped.
2007-11-19 23:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like the marriage when through a test of fidelity and passed so I don't see why that would be a problem, It seems like it would make the other person realize that the other person will not give in to temptation. Even if the couple was emotionally divided during that time because of the strain of it all, they can reconnect, there were no boundaries crossed. Marriage is a work in progress, many people view it as being happy and when something bad happens they consider divorce, if you view it as a journey you will be better prepared for it's challenges and understand that it is full of challenges and compromises and hard work.
2007-11-19 23:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Laura S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe you can put this behind you because both partners remained faithful. Feeling insecure at a time like that is perfectly normal. There should be some kind of discussion about how the two will deal with it, if another situation like that was to come up. After all a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. I went through something similar in my relationship of 6 years, and in my experience you may never forget what has happened but you can make the choice to move forward together. All the best to the couple.
2007-11-19 23:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Keisha♥lane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages always have highs and lows, it is all about getting through the low points so you can be happy and enjoy the highs. It is too bad this had to happen, but it will probably not be the last time you are faced with a challenge that makes it hard to keep going.
It is important to discuss and communicate openly with each other without name calling, finding fault etc. Try to reconnect to the way you were before this happened. Talk about special moments you remember, a secret memory you both share...or things you recall that your spouse may not even know were important to you.
Don't keep going back over this episode if it is really over. Make some plans, have a few date nights, return to places you remember being happy together.
2007-11-20 00:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is work. And in order for it to be successful, no matter what other problems arise takes a conscious effort on the part of both parties. I truly believe any couple can make it through anything if they both set their minds to it. It may not be easy, but you've already been though a difficult time. And I'm sure other difficult ones will come in the future. But if you want to make it work, MAKE IT WORK!!
Don't ask if you can, just do what it takes.
2007-11-19 23:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I feel that anything can be worked out if you both truly love each other and work hard at it. Yes, things can be good again. But, what I want to know is, why would that someone try so hard if he/she was told after the first time that it wasn't going to happen. I think there's more to this story than you know! Good Luck!
2007-11-20 00:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by SandraR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one said life would be easy. It's worse on married folks because it's two people trying to be happy at the same time. Marriage is going to be full of trials. Money, sex, greed, ..all of it.
As far as forgetting it....not completely, not forever. It's almost impossible. But the experiences we have as couples make us stronger as long as we work thru them together. There can never be a one sided forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself and the other person.
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2007-11-20 00:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a couple wants their relationship to survive bad enough .. then they can put everything in the past .. not dwell on it .. and go forward with their life.
A bell can't be unrung. However - persons can make the choice to over-come.
They can just put it behind them .. don't talk of it .. don't even allow themselves to think about it .. and move forward happily.
2007-11-20 00:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋