suicide and depression...?

Question

somthing happened to my best friend
and she cried with me for liek three hours abotu it
and showed me the cuts on her wrist and
im really realllyyy worried about her

she knows im here for her,
and she realated it to me being hurt by a man a whiel back

but, it kills me to think that she had to go through somthign like what i did. its making me all depressed over again, but i HAVE to be there for her
she was the only on there for me.
and i knwo it hurts her, but it hurts me so much also
she doesnt want to talk abotu it or tell me what happened though
and i think the only way i could help her is if i knew

i knwo this is alot, but any sugestions?
i just love her and shes my best friend
and im really scared abotu her

(shes gettign help , idk if its enough though)

thank you so much!

btw, meds arent goung to happen she wont take them
thanks though!!

she is going to a councelor, i dont know if its enough though
i juts feel liek its my job to make sure shes ok


and she fakes happy in front of anyone else...
:/

she hates her mom and her dad lives on another continent, so that doesnt work

:/

im not in love with her
shes just my best friend

Answer 1

You need to tell her parents or an adult. She will hate you, but it's better than her being dead.

Answer 2

I have been using an alternative therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique for anxiety and depression which has helped me a lot. I only have mild anxiety and depression now. It has really worked for me and I have been feeling a lot better since using EFT. It's very good at getting rid of all kinds of negative emotions and dealing with all kinds of issues quickly. It does sound crazy but does work. Might be something that can help you and your friend. Try some of the techniques in the 3rd link EFT - Step By Step.

Answer 3

Tell a guidance counsellor at school. They'll keep it confidential, and probably not tell that you told. Cutting is a sign of a bunch of different things. Don't let it go on for too long, or she'll get addicted to the pain. It happens, I know. She doesn't want to talk about it, and you have to respect that. She'll open up to you eventually, but for now leave it alone. You just have to let an adult know about it.She may dislike you for awhile, but she'll realise that it's in her benefit. If you don't tell a teacher or councillor or her parents directly, tell them that you're worried. Or to look out for her acting differently. Tell them that she's been different lately and that you're worried that she COULD do something to herself. They'll keep a closer eye on her from there.

Answer 4

first and im not being cruel in any way,i get a strong sense from the emotion in yor words, are you in love with her too?and you must remember that in order to help her you have to help yourself,for if you go down she has no-one,so will you go to the doctor and tell him the situation that you are in? there is no quick fix for the way she feels,im not saying leave her alone untill you get better,but you are going to have to be strong to help her and i believe your kindness is pulling you apart from the seams,you both need help and maybe if you both could see a doctor or counseler together,i realy hope that you both get through this awful time but plz be honest with her and tell her how all this is hurting you,and how much you want to be there for her but you are hurting too,and you need for her to open up to you so you can help her.good luck and take care both of u.

Answer 5

Tell her that you really love her, and want to help her. Remind her that you can relate to what she is going through. No guy is worth this, remind her that too. Tell her you respect that she doesn't want to talk about it, but you really think you could help her if she did. Tell her that you want to help her out, just like she helped you out, in your time of need. I think you would do a lot better, than counseling. Well, good luck, and I hope everything works out!

Answer 6

Hmm, you need to be strong for her; it's the only way. Best thing here is that you've been through it and therefore can empathize with her. She was hurt by a man? oh man, these men! these men! let me tell you one thing, since you've been through this once: if you ever have second thoughts about the next man you get with, don't ever continue with him; let him go already! unless you totally find out otherwise....

Answer 7

she's need help and like u said she's getting it.... make it clear to her mom she was to be dead.... this could be saving a life.... all the sharp items or anything that she can kill herself needs to be removed at once...... and get supporters as well... basically people who can pat her on the back and make her happy.... make sure u don't say anything to make her sad or mad...and don't hurt her feeling either...tell her mom shes needs to stop whatever she's doing so ur friend will stop hating her mother...... and make sure u inform her mother not to say anything rude or mean to her... make sure her life is perfect with no problems... i know it will be hard but if u wanna save a life and help ur friend u will probably do it without thinking twice...

i hope ur friend is ok

Answer 8

Try and sort it out between you and her but if nothing gets better an adult will have to be involved. From knowing people who have had experience with this, cutting does not get you anywhere, it causes you more pain. try and invite her over or whatever so you can talk privately xx

Answer 9

Listen to the others! If her parents are a big part of her life or even if they are caring (i only say if because i know that some aren't) talk to them first and if not then go to someone you and her both trust!

Answer 10

Cutting is a sign of wanting attention and need of help. If you are in HS or MS, talk to your school counselor about what is happening.
You may have to speak with her parents as well. She needs help ASAP!

Answer 11

try talking with her and try solving her problems together, and also get her a psychiatrist, she may really need professional help. go out to fun places with her, like the carnival, shopping, make her preoccupied, do sports, some new hobby, like bicycle, hiking, camping, wall climbing... there are many things to do... get her interested in these.