My boyfriend and I both agreed that we would like to get married. However I'm still in school till 2010. Someone with experience in this area, should we wait till then? Or is the fact that we want to get married enough?
2007-11-19 15:48:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im a college student.. just so ya know :)
2007-11-19 15:56:11 · update #1
If financial things is the problem .. then sit down with pencil & paper .. and go to figuring the expenses of being a married couple .. versus .. each being single.
If you can afford it .. and want to .. then get married.
Another consideration would be that you will be in school until 2010 .. which will require a lot of devotion to school .. and to studying .. which will take way from 'time-together' .. which should be completely understood up front.
You could also write down any problems which might confront you .. and see what you could do to work them out.
Best wishes.
2007-11-19 16:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you finish school in 2010, and play it safe with your other activates. Plan and save for this great day and the future for the both of you, that is at the most three more years.You can have a good marriage only when there is nothing or anyone that can cause problems to the relationship, so don't rush.. Here is dad talking now- to often young people fall in love and think that they will still complete school or trying to get degrees, after getting married. After a short time there is a third person in the family and no time to complete the plans made before getting married. Love each other as you do, and build on that love for the next three years until you get out of school..
2007-11-20 00:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. Are you in you College or High School? Either way , I would wait , people tend to grow and change alot and 3 years is really not that long , see how your feelings are in 2 years if they are the same , get engaged and wait for 1 year . It's better to make sure now then to end up hating each other later.
2007-11-19 23:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of factors to consider. How long you have been together and everything. There is not reason why you can't get married and finish school at the same time. But you may be better off waiting. It's really a decision only you and your boyfriend can make.
2007-11-19 23:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends totally on the reason(s) you want to wait in the first place. If it is religious, then no, you cannot do it before the wedding night. If it is just a matter of mental/emotional preparedness, then you can go for it whenever you both feel ready.
2007-11-19 23:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_in_md 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only something that your heart can answer..... Only you.. But when you do be by your self where you have counted to ten and can concentrate and make since... Now you have a pencil and pad of paper.... His name.... two columns... one Pros one Cons Next page School.... two columns... pros and cons... then the last page.... well next to last. Graduation and job pros and cons ;;;; Now last page... Picture your self getting married tomorrow and ten months down the road a beautiful baby... Whoops.... Now what? I think Missy that if this man wants you so bad he will support you in any thing... Just listen to your heart... Good luck and God bless... Much love for you my dear..... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-11-20 00:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write out the pro's and con's of getting married now..... and the pro's and con's of waiting for a short 3 years...
I bet the short 3 years will win.
2007-11-20 00:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you have plenty of time ... Marry when you " BOTH" are ready.....
2007-11-20 00:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever u feel ready then ur ready
2007-11-19 23:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋