my husband sometimes has an orgasm early and has me sitting there looking at him like "um what happened?".what can i do? or is this something he needs to take care of?
2007-11-19 15:25:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello,
I know that is funny, after checking medically and making sure nothing is wrong, which I don't think there is...see if he would consider a vibrator....they are so much fun if both party agree to play. He can use it on you and at the end he can participate and all is happy.
It is normal that women take much longer time than men..
2007-11-25 03:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not as unusual as you may think. A lot of men have premature ejaculation and a lot of women are pretty upset about it.
One thing you might do is have intercourse more frequently (really) this way he won't have all of this pent up need for an orgasm and he will take longer before he ejaculates. To start, I would suggest having sex twice as often as you have been. It may take a few times,but he will stretch out the time it takes him to orgasm.
Good Luck.
2007-11-19 15:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well................. this is a tough situation for you to be put in. On one hand, if you make him feel like he's done something horribly wrong, you'll make him crazy when he tries to have sex with you..... or you could pretend like its okay... that it happens to everyone... and he'll feel like he has a chance to make it up to you later on.
If the problem is that he's getting overly excited, you might have him take care of YOUR needs prior to intercourse. Oral sex is a good way for you to get off without endangering him of pre mature climaxing.
If the problem is that he's a "one and done" type of dude... he might ask his doc for some viagra type pills. If you don't have ED, those are a fun way to spend a weekend! However, rather than take the risk associated with those pills, you might try going to a health food store and asking them about "Horny Goatweed". I swear I am not making this up. And the stuff works very well.........
Just a thought!
2007-11-19 15:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a little more foreplay on his part might help. Or perhaps a sex therapist could be consulted. Then again frequency may be the cause. The more it is done on a daily basis the better the lasting power? Think you both should try to resolve the dissatisfaction together.Then maybe "um what happened?" could become" Hmmm--- WHAT HAPPENED ???
2007-11-19 15:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by googie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too plenty stress finally leads to a loss of stress on the pump, my expensive! Many men might/do adventure a failure to launch decrease than such circumstances. end speaking approximately concept, and attempt to make intercourse exciting and relaxing. provide him a rubdown first, to calm him. placed some calm song on? Re-assure him that that is 'no enormous deal'. yet another trick? Announce that the two certainly one of you will need intercourse, yet neither certainly one of you is authorized to orgasm (for merely this one time). that is style of like opposite psychology, regardless of the shown fact that it additionally gets rid of the stress from him, and he can get familiar with all the different exciting stuff that is going with intercourse, too. good success! :)
2016-11-12 04:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he finishes to quickly make him do things to you until you are finished as well. also, try slowing it down when he is about to orgasm...make him stop and start doing some other things to keep it going. me personally, i love when my husband finishes quickly. i dont like sex that takes over 5 minutes...the thing that drives me over the edge are those last final "hits" when i can feel his passion about to overwhelm him..that does it for me!
2007-11-19 15:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he feels comfortable he should speak with a doctor. You can ask him to focus on you before the sex that way the entire time will seem longer.
2007-11-19 15:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by bnut227 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLOW IT DOWN & TAKE CONTROL no one know your body/needs better than yourself! Teach him, show him what you like, be exact to the point, no generalizing, exact to the point!! Be vocal, and when hes doing what you like, let him know, & he'll do more of it!!! And after youv'e curler your toes &quit trembling, then repay him for all his intrests in you! Be very aggresive and practice-practice-practice!!! You 2 will hook up on the same star very soon!! good luck
2007-11-19 15:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem. I am very sexual and like to have lots of for play. But it never fails before I'm there hes done.
2007-11-19 17:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe have him do things to you before he goes off. And if he does go off before you and your not satisfied then he needs to take care of you till you are. If he doesn't then he is selfish and that isn't right.
2007-11-19 15:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋