I am 27 years old and a virgin. I have a new g/f. We have made out on several occasions and whenever we do, I don't really get much of an erection. Today we were making out and she began to fondel my penis and testes. I did get an erection. Then she began to perform oral on me an I felt myself losing my erection, and I eventually did. I don't understand this. I have absolutely no problem getting or maintaing an erection when i masturbate. Could it be that i masturbate too often and have become de-sensitized? I figured being a virgin that, if anything, I would have a difficult time not getting an erection too quickly or ejaculating too quickly but for some reason, that's not the case.
I find my g/f very attractive, and like I said, I have no problem getting an erection by myself so I know I'm not impotent. Do you think it could just be a case of nerves and/or too much masturbation.
Thanks, sorry for asking such a lame question.
2007-11-19 14:39:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Not lame at all. It's a real surprise, and not what you or she expected at all. It probably makes you both feel bad, and shouldn't.
It's happened to me a few times. The best thing I know to say is "Well, darn. I hate when that happens. Let's do you instead." Don't be selfish. She has wants too, and you have fingers, lips, and imagination.
It just happens. When you're older, it just happens more. Being a good lover is measured in what you give her, not what you get from her. Be a good lover any way. Either your erection will come back by itself and you have a time, or it doesn't and you have a good time. Give her your best anyway, whatever "best" means at that moment.
2007-11-19 17:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tom V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Performance anxiety is a real mood killer
It is not a case of too much masterbation although masterbating an hour or so before sex can help you last longer
Just relax and enjoy your g/f's attention
2007-11-19 22:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not a lame question. And yes, you got a case of stage fright. Try laying off masterbating, so the only sexual pleasure and gratification you get will be from her. And just relax and enjoy.
2007-11-19 22:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're gay.
Try having a dude suck you off and see what happens.
In all seriousness, sounds like performance anxiety/stage fright. Just relax and take it slow...and if that doesn't work, either try my first suggestion or make your hand your new best friend.
2007-11-20 03:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say definitely a bad case of stage fright. Try to get more relaxed and things should go just fine.
2007-11-19 22:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by lcoil79 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey ur lucky ur girl went down on u mine wont do that at all but very embarrassing situation. well it would be a good idea to exercise ur penis. it is called jelqing and is suppose to increase ur blood circulation to the tip to make it harder and stronger long lasting erections.
2007-11-19 22:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine. Just try to relax, stop masturbating for a few days and see if she'd like to try again. I'm pretty sure you do.
2007-11-19 22:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by iraq51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nerves. unfortunately, it needs to pass as you get more comfortable. for me, it helped to have just one or 2 drinks to take the edge off, not more.
2007-11-19 22:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Charles M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur way to nervous relax an enjoy it
2007-11-19 22:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its nerves try and relax a bit.
2007-11-19 23:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋