2007-11-19 14:30:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you've had kids with him without being married and been with him 10 years then you've given him no incentive to get married...he's been able to have a married relationship with you and a legal one in most states, without the benefit of the piece of paper. If he is committed to you as if you're married and that's good enough for you, then that's your answer. If he's not committed or you're not happy with the situation then that's your answer. Ultimately only you know what you need from this man.
2007-11-19 14:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u r holding on for the kids all u will do is hurt the kids in the end. If your marriage is far from what it should be then I think u need to step back and re examine it.
2007-11-19 14:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by blondemaiden01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how bad the situation is. Also, if you are one of those mothers who's concerned about your kids...just know they're going to have a really hard time if you go through with a divorce...some parents don't care about their kids and let whatever happens happen... it's up to you.
2007-11-19 14:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can know if you fight all the time and the kid's see it if you or he is phisical or if he hurt's or abuses the kid's if you are just doing this because of a new guy don't the grass alway's look's greener on the other side untill your there no one will ever love your childern like there real dad you have to think who are you doing this for
2007-11-19 15:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by furface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is between you and him ...not your kids..... What you have together will last after your kids are grown. If it is bad now ...one day you'll wake up and find you have wasted your life and you will be alone.... That's not good...so evaluate what you have now and really look at all the good and the bad but have respect for you .Do for you, because you cannot give to him... if you don't have you!!!!,
2007-11-19 14:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasnt bothered to marry u in the last 10 years why would he bother now, does he know this is important to you or not,people are not mindreaders, especially guys, sometimes it has to jump up and bite them in the butt, so if u havent already tell him if this is important to u i know it would be important to me, and what are u willing to do if he dosent want to get married, do you feel that your relationship is going nowhere, as grandma used to say why buy the cow if the milk is free, he has all of the advantages .
2007-11-19 14:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to accept that he will never marry you. When what a man does and what he says are two different things, what he does is what he really means. So no, he will never marry you, and you will have to decide if you want to stay with him or not.
2007-11-19 14:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, if your wanting to divorce because he leaves the toilet seat up thats really extreme, if it is because he has a drug problem, beats you to a pulp and cheats on you then yeah leave.
However we dont have enough information to make a judgment call in your case.
2007-11-19 14:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of what you are asking.
Are you married?
Or .. are you wanting your kids father to marry you .. after 10 years of being together.
Or .. are you wanting to leave your husband .. (if he is your husband)?
I don't understand the question.
2007-11-19 14:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you mean that he hasn't married you after 10 years together, then i'd say it ain't gonna' happen. why would he marry you at this point? what would be in it for him that he's not getting already?
you really haven't given us enuff info to give you good advice...
2007-11-19 14:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by mizz_melanie_wilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋