It seems so easy to divorce these days. I do not think everyone takes into consideration their marriage vows said before God. Why do you think this is or is not? Thank you!
2007-11-19 14:17:07 · 15 answers · asked by Marie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the change mores beginning in the 60's started the decline of long term marriages. Easy divorce makes it easier these days... and I think many people have the attitude... well it doesn't work out we can always get divorced. which means they have little desire to Work At their marriage.
And a good marriage takes LOTS of hard work. There are reasons to get divorced. Like an abusive spouse. Or one who continually cheats on you. But over all there are so many people who divorce just because they thought it wasn't working out.
2007-11-19 14:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attitudes are much more relaxed nowadays. "No-fault" divorce laws are partly to blame but there are deeper things at work.
Most people thing LOVE is the biggest thing in marriage. They're wrong. Commitment is the real key. Love is an emotion. We are people and our emotions change day to day and moment to moment.
There will be many bad loveless days in marriage. I know for about a year in my own marriage of 25 years we spent most of our time flipping each other off.
We had children, property, a vow, and commitment. We still have marriage.
Statistics will show you correct that it's easy to divorce. One marriage in four will fail. Various reasons but obviously NO commitment.
I've said it before in this forum but it's worth repeating.
If you go into marriage with your eyes wide open you can keep them half shut afterwards.
2007-11-19 14:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Voice of Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People rarely understand that marriage is about sacrifice when they enter it... and when it is not what they thought it would be they give up.. or look for "something better". If they did look at their vows each day as being a covenant before God then the perspective would be more in light of a lifelong commitment and about God first - which would bring the divorce rate down. Sadly, many Christians stop looking at it as a covenant with God and the other person at some point also.
2016-05-24 06:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We certainly live in a "I deserve to be happy" society.
Though I don't believe we hold marriage with any less respect or reverence most of us have grown up in a time where divorce is easier to obtain than a new credit card.
We don't know the forced responsibility of vows and are a bit more self centered than in generations past.
2007-11-19 14:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by So Cal Homie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious. Neither are my parents. They have been married almost 30 years. I know they won't ever get divorced. I take my vows seriously because I made the promise to MYSELF and my HUSBAND. I owe it to him, myself and my kids. Not to mention,I wouldn't have even married him if I didn't want him beside me in my "older days."
Some people now do not take it seriously. They divorce one, marry another. Shame on them. Unless abuse or infidelity occurs- what is the divorce for? EVERYONE will inevitably have problems. What's wrong with working them out?
2007-11-19 14:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by plastic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The courts are so overwhelmed with case they just go through the motions. The judges that do divorces in my state also hear criminal and civil cases.
Unfortunately I have been in all three courts and stand in front of a judge that ruled in a criminal case, civil case and finally the judge that ruled in my divorce after twenty four years.
The law is not about justices for all. It's about who can afford the best lawyer. If you can't afford a lawyer the give a court appointed attorney. they are so under payed and over work they don't really help. They just want you to take the plea bargain the Prosecutor offers you. I wanted to fight the charges of violating a protective order which I was not guilty of. Protective order was filed so my ex-wife could remove me from the house to move in the guy she was having affair with. Then claimed I broke the order to try and have me jailed so she may continue her affair without any worry, knowing I was in jail. My public defender would not fight for me, he only a shored me I'd loose and spend two years in jail.
When I went to court because I was unable to afford myself attorney and she could the judge wanted to hear something from me. Wife and her attorney claim I was this evil person that was in and out of jail so much they no longer new how to contact me at one point and asked the judge to rule on a default. Not the judge or my ex-wife attorney ever check to see if the information provided by my ex was true. All they had to do is check the jail records since their public records to see that I havn't even had a jwalking ticket.
The judge ruled for my ex giving her everything but the clothes on my back giving her everything I owned and it only took about one hour to give her everything I owned. .
2007-11-19 15:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I do. You are so right..It is way to easy to get a divorce these days. When your marriage is in trouble then you should seek out the help to fix it. People forget why they got married in the first place. Why they fell in love with the person.
2007-11-19 14:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-20 00:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Alma of Avalon Grailguard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think society has made it acceptable. I think a lot of people run at the first sight of a problem too.
But for me, I hold them sacred too. I married young. A lot of people said it would last. It has. There have been ups and downs, but we work through them like you're supposed to do.
2007-11-19 14:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, and I think part of the reason is just what you stated. It is so easy to get a divorce now, that people tend to take the easiest way possible. I definetaly think that our coutry in particular, has made divorce almost trendy. Now this doesnt apply to situations of abuse, or audultrey.
2007-11-19 14:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by julie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋