Am I so choosey?

Question

I'm attracted to tall men. When someone is courting me under 5'7, i always regard him just a friend.

I always ignore men that bores me. Wit and humor is what i want.

I weigh men's genetical capacity for my future offspring.

i dont like young men that is same to my age. I regard them as immature. Not that i want to date 40+. Goodness!!!
No offense to 40+, i'm still young. lol

I'm also looking for a good spirituality disposition.


do you think i have to lower my standard?

wow, very well said by Gbinz...

oliver has a good point, too.

sorry for the wrong grammar. it's spiritual disposition, means if his God/Savior is Jesus Christ.

Genetic capacity means if i'm physically attracted to him.

well, i believe in the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. :)

ohh, but i dont believe in Darwin's theory. :(

Funny about Anna's answer is that she dont research. I use Merriam Webster, and choosey is a variant of choosy. Although choosy is preferred by many, they have the same meaning. No offence to you, too, Anna but maybe you should the researching first. I dont say i want a perfectionist man, but you are right they do like intelligent women. lol

Answer 1

In reality, the person we'll end up with is the opposite of what we desire... You just lack maturity. Love always cought people unexpectedly... love has no standard... when it happens, there's no turning back.

Answer 2

Chez, you should never have to lower your standards . . . As if you do and you get nabbed by the wrong man, then you will hate yourself for it later on . . . And this may cause you too much grief. You know that you are quite attractive . . . You can tell by the way that men take a second look at you. You probably have experienced that kind of personal attention most all of your life, since you were even a little girl. Some day some lucky guy will get you . . . It's just a matter of time. I want to wish you the best of luck. You are so maganda though . . . AND you already know it. So, go ahead and be as particular about it as you want to be.

Answer 3

All I'm gonna say is that you can wish for the man of your dreams... just make sure you're also the type of woman on his wish list or you'll end up one day a lonely 45 year old lady living in a one bedroom 30 square meter appartment with old newspapers and cats.
Darwin's theory of natural selection at work.

Answer 4

You should be true to yourself. If you feel you are lowering your standards, then I doubt you will be happy long term.

But I encourage you to keep going out with men your own age, even if you consider them immature for now. You might find that you fill gaps in each other. For example, if you're very serious, and they're playful, it could help for both of you to move toward the middle.

Answer 5

You are not choosy. You're just have a clear preferrence of your ideal man. YOu don't need to lower your standard, unless you are desperate to have a bf or husband.

I married my ideal man and he is as per my standard. 6'2 tall, athletic figure, causacian, no kids, with a very good job, a nice sense of humor, and matured enough to handle me... hahah!

Answer 6

Well it's a good thing though that you have standards--at least you know what you want. But just remember that it can change when you found the guy your heart says for you--no matter who and what he is. Like what the others said, as you mature further, your perspective on things can change [based from experience ;)].

Answer 7

Choosy, in the sense, you're firm on your standards, some choice of yours doesn't make you lower nor higher because its just one thing of you that makes it uniquely yours because you like it that way. All of us wish the good or beautiful things that we want in a bigger picture but somehow we manage to see the good beautiful things in some smaller things that we need really in our lives.

Answer 8

You are not choosy ... it's natural for all of us to pick the best.

Hmm .... I'm more than 5'7" .... Witty and got sense of humor, but most of the time hilarious .... genetica capability? no problem .... I think I'm older than you, but I'm really below 40 ... I am more on the spiritual side .... don't lower your standards.

I think it fits me hehe.

Answer 9

You're still young and the young are basically perfectionists or idealistic. Give it some more years and maybe your taste for the kind of man in your life will be different. It often happens when one grows older, becomes mature and grows with wisdom and understanding.

Answer 10

you're doing just fine, girl. no need to lower your standards. however, i am kinda curious to how exactly do you weigh a man's "genetical capacity" and what exactly is a "good spirituality disposition."

Answer 11

I think not, because you only set your own standard since you're still too young to choose which is better. Maybe some guys think your standard are too high and misinterpret you for being friendly...