DO all men cheat ?

Question

My mom said that any older woman will tell me that all men will cheat when they reach 40 years of age . She said she will hold my hand through the tough time Im to face in 10 years so I can learn forgiveness . Is she right ? Do all men get a "40year-itch"?

She also said if I dont learn to forgive Ill be alone forever .

Answer 1

Stats on cheating are mostly self-reported and so, maybe reliable or maybe not, but after studying this subject a bit I found the numbers to range from between 20 and 38% of all married men reporting/studied. And personally knowing 3 that I can vouch for, there are at least 3 who don't.

For women the percentages are a little bit less, between 14 and 30%, again, depending upon "who" you want to listen to, and again, with a couple women, those who I am sure of, I have at least a handful for you to prove that not ALL do....... of either gender.

I would say that your mother has had some bad experiences with men, God bless her. She assumes they are all like those she has been hurt by. And I do understand how that can happen.

But I guess, Doc, it all depends upon you... do YOU think you are in trouble here?

Answer 2

Not every guy is the same. I cheated once in my life i was 15 and my ex came over my house and one thing led to another I will never forgive myself for that cause I hurt my girlfriend at the time very badly and I have been cheated on before so I know what it feels like. Cheating is what broke apart my family and it was on my mothers side no my father. I dont think all men are cheaters but I will tell you this. You cant control someone if a person is going to cheat they will and if they decide to tell you or not is up to them no sense in getting jealous or worked up about it cause no matter what you cant control them just enjoy the relationship be careful and make sure the one you give your heart to shows you they deserve it not show you with words show you with actions! Hope i could be of help! ^.^

Answer 3

simple answer: No.

that there is a simple answer: no.

there are a complex set of circumstances and biological / emotional variables not the least of which is the biological fact that the chemicals involved in attraction are of an essentially fleeting nature.
males are programed to mate often
females are programmed to mate well

there was a study by some University that sought to prove to some extent that attraction is mostly based in the biology of pheromones and the immune system, women were attracted to the "scent" of those men who had immune systems as divergent from their own as possible, so that potential offspring would gain the benefit of an immune system better that both parents.

Coupled with the fact that everyone is and entirely different person: every 7 years all the cells in your body have been replaced by replicated ones... it only takes 7 years for partners to assimilate the immune system of the other. Then a stress comes along, emotional, financial, whatever, it will either break the relationship, or make it stronger.

best of luck, and best wishes in all you do.

Answer 4

Not all men cheat and not all women cheat either. It just depends on the person you choose and what their personality is like. I think that if your husband or boyfriend really loves you and you really love him, that he will love you forever no matter what....Well, as long as you don't cheat and I doubt you will. But, even then I would say that he would still love you and just be a little heart broken if he truly loves you. Anyways, at least your mom said she would hold your hand through the tough times...But, hopefully you wont have too many tough times. Well, I wish you and your boyfriend or husband good luck and a happy relationship.

Answer 5

She's halfway right, but I really don't believe this is a certifiable fact. Most women who have been hurt and are scarred by past indiscretions, usually say things like that, and it prevents women who have never been cheated on before, and who have decent boyfriends, to start acting really insecure and displaying a lack of trust in their own relationships. Just do your thing and if you ever do get cheated on, deal with that situation at that time. Don't tell yourself that ALL men cheat, because then you will take it out on a GOOD guy, and you may eventually evoke a cheater. Be the best that you can be, a good man will come your way, when the time is right. Best wishes!

-Knowledge24

Answer 6

Your mom should have said alot of them cheat but not all, and shes wrong for preparing you to forgive your man for cheating on u in the future. Real men will never cheat on their woman. Only wimps, and wussies cheat, and if they cheat you shouldnt be with them in the first place. I hate cheating in any form by any gender. i turned 40 this year and i know i will never cheat on anyone so your mom is wrong right off the bat.

Answer 7

If that ever happens to you (I hope not though), rather than hold your hand, your mom might consider holding your 40 year old cheats head under water for a few minutes.
I'm not 40 but I do get an itch - I always contributed that to the yeast infection.

Answer 8

No offense but your mother sounds like she's been hurt and scarred a lot and therefor has a pessimistic opinion on love and life.
No, not all men cheat... you just have to find the right one that is willing to work out any problems during the marriage. Not all men get the 40 year itch.
Your mother can only speak from her own experiences and possibly experiences of her friends, but not of the entire male population.
Don't let her negative disposition on love and marriage allow you to believe that fidelity isn't possible, because it is. We live, we love, and we learn for ourselves. Don't let her opinions get in the way of yours.

Answer 9

Not all men cheat, no.
My wife will tell you, as I will, that I never have and never will. When people cheat they don't take into consideration how much they are throwing away. How much they, as a couple, have fought and suffered for to get to where they are today. People cheat out of selfishness and inconsideration. they think they won't get caught or found out or that their conscious won't get to them.
They don't know themselves or their spouse very well then.
I'm not a perfect husband, I make mistakes and errors in judgment, but I do not cheat on my wife.
Without my wife being there in the beginning, I'd be in prison now, possibly on death row. I don't repay that kind of kindness and compassion with cheating and ruining a great marriage.
I'm nearing 39 and don't even remotely have the interest in cheating. I guarantee I won't either.

Answer 10

You Mom' must have had some hard times with them. but really all do not cheat. it depends on what type of guy you meet. I have never cheated not even once. and a few of my friends have never cheated, but some have. it is all the way they think. I know some women that cheat. but does that mean all of them do? no' for my wife does not cheat, my sister does not. I know a lot that do not. so it is really about the same on both sides. it is the type of person you find.