Part 2. What would you do???

Question

I try to keep my wife happy, I'm not rich and we can't go out everyday of the week , but we do things together, except that it's just about always what she likes only, movies, restaurants, tv shows, etc. Even if we leave to see a movie I want to see, we end up seing something she likes! She tells me she loves me but won't make love to me, she lets me after a while, but it seems as if I was with a rubber doll! She barely moves and get "hot" she just wants to get me off and then turns around and keeps watching TV or do whatever else. If I kiss her she wipes her lips after and says it's annoying to hve her lips wet, or even turns her head sideways so I miss her lips. When asking to have sex, she makes me wait for her shows or anything else she can think off, like playing with pets, then after midnight, tells me it's too late and goes to sleep! This is going on for years. I do my best to keep her happy and even ask her if she'd like sometihing different, she doesn't even respond!

I've taken her out, massaged her many a time without expecting sex, and even if I asked her to massage me in return cause I had bad muscle aches, she woun't even do that. I probably got 3 massages in 2 years that were feeling good. I massage her feet often, and she sleeps throught it. If it's something I like then it seems that she'll find something to do the opposite!
Maybe I'm kidding myself and she is just using me as a floor mat! I want to love her and make her happy, but it seems that no matter what I do, is always stupid or not good enough for her! She never even helps me at work when I know she could! I pay someone else $1400 a month to do work at my shop I know she could do herself for me and we'd keep the cash to go out more! But no she won't even try to help! I feel stuck as I love her and want her, but sometimes hate going home to be disapointed! Again and again!

Answer 1

Sounds like a one way street. You need to assert yourself by saying what you would like for a change. If it causes the fur to fly, you may need some marriage counseling. Sex is some of the glue that keeps love alive and fun but it takes two to tango. Don't settle for mediocrity. Shake it up, talk it out and get it on.

Answer 2

How about talking with her.
Spend a few days and nights just being together without putting the pressure of sex on her. Touch her without expecting to get sexual. Give her a massage that leads to nothing but more massaging.

After you have taken the pressure off her and yet given her attention and physical affection she will want sex more.

There are many reasons why someones sex drive goes down and begging or making them feel guilty isn't going to fix it.

It's sounds like you are saying "hey I treat her right and take her out she owes me some sex" and you know what she can sense how you feel and this will not get her in the mood at all.

Answer 3

can u say the term floor mat, as she is using u like a rug and wiping her feet all over u, the only way someone can walk over u is if u allow it sounds like u 2 need some serious counseling

Answer 4

Sounds to me as if you are living with my SOON-TO-BE X WIFE!!!!! Just don't take it so personnal, my wife is good in all matter except $$, romance,sex!! But there is a lite at the end of the tunnel, I just hope its not a TRAIN!!!!

Answer 5

same thing as my hubby, i try to have sex, but its when his shows are over, he is never in the mood, and stuff, i posted question like this too, ditch her, you knwo you can file for divorce under grounds of not getting sex, but not sure if its in your state,talk to her, tell her you need it, threaten to go somewhere (though dont actually do it) maybe she'll respond to that, otherwise, go to counselling

Answer 6

I'ld say she's not very interrested in you. Have you tried counsling? That might help.

Answer 7

i dunno bud to me it sounds like she just not into the relationship and you may need to make her fall in love with you all over again