My wife and I have been married since June of this year. Our marriage has been anything but smooth. I don't put all of the blame on her because I have made some bad planning. Our reason for getting married was largely based on us having a baby. We argue almost every day, and we have nothing in common. We come from totally diffrent backgrounds. I am from the big northeastern city, she grew up in a small town in the south. I', 26 and shes 19, Her parents have been married for 30 yrs, mine are divorced., and not to mention I have a meddling mother-in-law. I dont't know what todo.
2007-11-19 12:52:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having a baby is a terrible reason to get married... although it often happens. If you are truly unhappy, don't think there's any way you can make it work, then get out now before you have too much time invested. You'll be paying child support for the next 18 years, but at least you haven't thrown your life away on an unhappy marriage that you felt forced into.
2007-11-19 12:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 08:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was you thinking sleeping with a baby,don't you know that young girls like her dream of having a baby and getting married that's her main purpose in life. You need to get out for the sake of the baby and you.She will be fine her meddling mother will make sure of that.
2007-11-19 13:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Drop-kick the mother-in-law.
2. Have a SERIOUS conversation with your wife. Tell her that things are really bad between you and you see only two ways out: learn how to find solutions to your differences that both of you can live with (compromises) or divorce. Couples counselling helps you learn this - if you're both willing to learn.
3. Find something that you can both enjoy together, and start doing it.
2007-11-19 13:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Arsan Lupin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The age difference isn't extreme, but the mom-n-law should concern you!! If not being verbally abusive,or nasty/mean, she might need to step back!! But, its hard for a parent to step back when they know their child is not happpy!! Sounds like your message is pretty inbedded in your thoughts already, but 1st talk to your wife, and find out WHAT SHE WANTS, but keeep in mind, with her being preg. she may be all out of control emotionally. Just be ready to do the rite thing w/baby!!!
2007-11-19 13:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your anger and a meddling mother-in-law are bad news. You will have to change by dealing with your feelings about all this. You will not be able to change other people's behaviour. Seek Christian counseling - if you are one.
2007-11-19 13:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by cheir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you have tried every possible solution to make it work and nothing has changed then i would move on. It really hard when your young and married, me and my husband are two years under you, and we have two kids. we've had it hard sometimes to, and my mother-in-law is a huge problem, but we've just considered her just that a problem. Just try first. My husband and i went thru a really rocky time and we survived it and our marriage is incredible.
2007-11-19 13:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nubian Dancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you should not have gotten married at all. Try to get some counseling before you throw in the towel. You owe it to your baby.
2007-11-19 13:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some marriage counseling. its too soon to talk about divorce. talk to your parents and see what they say. make a resposible choice. Remember dont talk with your emotions speak rationally, like advice you would give to a loved one
2007-11-19 13:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sense in being miserable, and it's not good for you all child. Should't you all have thought about all of this?
2007-11-19 13:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋