I have a fantasy of my wife making love with another guy. I am not very well endowed, so the thought of her being with a hot studly guy is a big turn on for me, should I tell her about it
2007-11-19 12:48:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fantasy isn't wrong.
Do you & your wife talk about your fantasies with each other?
If not, do so. Talking about a fantasy is not the same as indulging in a fantasy & who knows, maybe your wife has a fantasy about being with a hot studly guy who is well endowed, but you won't know unless you share with each other.
At any rate, more & better communication is vital for keeping a healthy relationship healthy.
2007-11-19 12:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Monkeyboi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a word for this, which I won't say here. When you read about this,you should realize that it is 100% fantasy and that it never is healthy. I think your wife would be terribly hurt if you told her.
Try some other games where she humiliates you for being under-endowed and doesn't bring others into it.
For example, maybe she can give you a nickname of "tiny" or when you are in the middle of having intercourse she might say "when are you going to put it in?" If she doesn't mind this type of play, she may even have you apologize for being so small in "that department" and perhaps have you take on some usually woman oriented tasks around the house (like doing the laundry, the dishes, etc.)
These may serve the same purpose but they place the inadequacy on you and keep her out of it.
Just be careful, have fun and Good Luck.
2007-11-19 16:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have fantasies and you should talk about them however be very careful when wanting to involve other people. It can cause problems in the relationship. The fact that your saying your not well endowed won't matter to your wife. She's still with you isn't she. Try using toys on her. That way you can use something big and still keep it intimate between the two of you. You shouldn't be self conscious.
2007-11-19 13:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had the same fantasy. You just have to be very sure of yourself and your relationship before pursuing this. If either on of you get jealous easily, DO NOT do it. It has to be complete trust on each side. And set ground rules: no kissing on the mouth, no missionary,anything that you would consider a deal breaker. Then, if she is willing, have lots of fun!!!1 Just remember that this is your fantasy, not hers. do not push it until you think she may be ready for it.
2007-11-19 12:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Klitten in the Shower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men have a fantasy of that sort at one time or another. It's usually best left in the realm of the imagination.
2007-11-19 15:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong in any kind of fantasy. Fantasy must remain as fantasy and not reality. If you guys trust each other enough, you can talk to her about it.
2007-11-19 13:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have a fantasy is one thing to act on it is another. So be sure you want this to happen cuz if you do and they find a sexual attraction to eachother, it could be Karma for you. Yes tell her. She may enjoy the fact of it but not react on it.
2007-11-19 13:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by B*Nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want her to agree to live out the fantasy or do you want her to tell you that you satisfy her completely. Either way, only ask her if you already know the answer.
2007-11-19 12:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong. But if you tell her, you should have an idea if it's a fantasy of hers too, and if you can handle if she likes it, wants to keep doing it, and may leave you.
2007-11-19 12:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Fantasies are best when they STAY fantasies. The reality is never as good as you'd hoped.
2007-11-19 12:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋