Is it wrong to let my fiance go to strip clubs?

Question

My fiance and I beed together 7 years. When he goes partying with his friends he somtimes goes to strip clubs. He lets me know when ever he goes and I dont get bothered by it. I even go with him every now and then. My friends say that I am crazy and I should not let him out. I dont care what she really thinks as long as my fiance keeps me happy thats all I care about

Answer 1

Yes.

Answer 2

Normally, I would say that a strip club is a pretty harmless thing and that if you are uncomfortable with it you should talk to him about it, but that you really don't have a whole lot to be worried about. However, from your situation as you describe it, the last thing I would worry about is the strip club. He lives only 45 minutes away and you haven't seen him in six months? I travel twice that everyday for work. I don't know the whole situation, but I can see why you are losing faith in him. But truth is, if he hasn't seen you in six months and hasn't cheated, he won't do so because he went to a strip club. And if he is, then the strip club won't really make a difference.

Answer 3

Don't worry about your friend listen to your heart and your fiance. What I feel are the important things are is have him agree that you can join him whenever you decided you would like to go and also agree on a tipping amount. Guys can get carried away with tips but make sure he isn't spending a bunch of money on someone elses girl and not you.
Other then that I don't think it is a problem. I have done it and it's fun to put tips in front of him when he thinks the girl is ugly but he gets me back by putting tips in front of me which always gets the other guys happy when the dancers start paying attention to other girls. lol Good Luck, congrats on your upcoming wedding and again just listen to your heart and do what feels right.

Answer 4

My husband used to like to go to strip clubs. I went with him every now and then. I was pretty uncomfortable when I was in those clubs, but I figured my husband would come home afterward and I'd get the reward. As your fiance, you dont have any right to let him go or not go. He's a grown man. I'm sure he appreciates you not giving him a bunch of grief when he does go to the clubs. There are lots worse things a man can do.

Answer 5

I think you're fine. You realize what some other people don't which is that men are perfectly capable of separating fantasy from reality. There are lots of hot men that women look at, just perhaps not a club to go to (or find as easily anyway). Letting him look is not a guarantee that he's going to cheat. I let my husband go, he's a grown man and I trust him. I think you should ignore your friend, you fiance is not a child and doesn't need to be controlled.

Answer 6

What works for you as a couple doesn't necessarily work for other couples. And vice versa. Why let other people's insecurities dampen your own relationship? Everyone says that 'trust' is a major ingredient in a good marriage, yet most have little of it.

When I go to a restaurant with friends, my wife doesn't take it as an insult to her cooking. So why would she be concerned if I see another woman half nude? Bottom line is, where does he go afterward? To the stripper's home or yours?

"Shouldn't let him out." A sure disaster for marriage, in either direction. Don't let other people tell you how to ruin your marriage; you're quite capable of doing it on your own without additional help from them. And if you're not ruining it, why start now, just on their say-so?

Answer 7

If he is being honest with you about when he goes and if you can go whenever you want to then you should have nothing to worry about. Most men will lie and go behind your back if you lay down the law and say NO. Try surprising him with a strip tease of your own when he comes home or send him to bed and enter the bedroom shortly thereafter and put the best damn strip show on he's ever seen. Chances are he will frequent the clubs less and less!!!!!

Answer 8

Yeah, you don't realize what they do to guys when there girl friends are not around! I live in Las Vegas! I have a ton of male friends that share disgusting stories of going to strip clubs! $20 for a hand job, b job, and have even heard of one friend having sex w/ two strippers in the private room! These are guys I've known for years and wouldn't lie to make them self look good. In most cases they were in shock that it actually happened! That it was never mentioned from their mouths, the girls just did it!
So ask yourself this! Would you let him mess around on you and feel the same way? Cause that's what your basically telling him. Its OK to grope a naked girl, have her rubbing all over his man hood, kissing, and that's not even the bad part.

Answer 9

Your right!!! As long as he is telling you that he is going there is nothing wrong with going to a strip club now and then. It is good for your relationship for you to trust him like that. It really shows how much you are in love with each other. Let him go and have fun as long as he comes home to you at the end of the night no harm can come of it. Boys will be boys.

Answer 10

It's not exactly wrong, but I do find it a bit strange. No offense. But I also take my hat off to you for being so trusting of him. But if he ever gets drunk (a drink or two is okay) at the strip club or gets a lap-dance, that is just going TOO far.

Answer 11

I wouldn't mind if my fiance went out to the strip clubs with the guys. Those places are look but don't touch anyway, and the way you are acting shows that you trust him to make good decisions about your relationship.

I always have to wonder about how secure people are in their relationships when they are suspicious about every move their significant others make. And, you can be very secure--he IS telling you, after all.