My ex-girlfriend has been acting strange. We were together for almost 3 years. However, she ended the relationship, but yet hasnt let go. She calls me or texts me everday. She even invites me out to lunch where she'll pay sometimes, so she's not using me for money. She says we won't be getting back together, but to me her actions are so different. How many ex-girlfriends break up with the guy, and yet they are the one that does all the contacting, also when were out she tries to be extremely flirty with me and only me. All my friends think she's holding onto something that she's just trying to see me put forth some effort when it comes to us. Yet she adamently says no we wont be dating again. Shes also pretty touchy with me when were out. Everyone but her says they think we'll get back together if its what I want, thats how confident they are she'll come back to me. She says I really hurt her, but for someone that was so hurt it doesnt make sense for her to keep coming around. Lost?
2007-11-19 12:13:41 · 12 answers · asked by Advice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, seems like either she enjoys playing with you or she is extremely undecisive.
Either way it's not healthy for you unless you enjoy being played with.
I suggest you cut her off your life. Be decisive. If she wants you back she will take you back when she sees that it's either that or losing you. If not - not a great loss, believe me.
Next time - don't sell yourself cheap.
2007-11-19 12:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Serena d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long enough time to get in a habit of calling and getting together to talk ( habits are hard to break). She probably feels that 3 years is long enough time and it's time to make a decision for marriage and apparently you really hurt her and so she broke it off with you and now she is kind of using you and letting you know that by telling you your not getting back together. She is kind of giving you a choice whether to get on your knees and tell her how sorry you are and that your madly in love with her and can't live without her, (that's usually a woman's dream) so maybe not as dramatically but along those lines of apology is what she is looking for and if you don't try to make it work then she is letting you know it's over, but she is using you for a while (to compensate the hurt) until she meets someone new. That's How I See It!!!!! P.S. By the way how did you hurt her??
2007-11-19 12:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude---you should let her go---coming from someone who just ended a marriage with very similar circumstances. It was comfortable for her and now that cozy feeling is gone. If she has said she doesn't want you --then move on----there will be someone else, who wants to be with you and isn't into all the bs games. You are probably better off cutting the cord now---so you can go ahead and heal and be ready for the right one!! Don't let her drag you along, while she looks for something else
2007-11-19 12:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by pinkdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say in this case, it's time to cut her loose. Let her know not to contact you and why. You don't have to rude or anything =) just let her know you've moved on with your life and doing other things now etc..she doesn't have to like it, but it's not up to her, it's up to you =). If things start getting out of hand, then you'll know to take other precautions, but my guess is she won't. Good luck, take care =)
2007-11-19 12:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should start dating someone and tell her its not okay for her to be so touchy feely with you because youre with someone.women can be very forgiving and thats why she is contacting you. But if she's so stead fast about never getting back together its best that you sever all ties.
2007-11-19 12:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is seeing someone else but wants to make sure you are still in the picture. You need to let her go tell her you don't want her to contact you anymore watch what she does.She'll be at your door so fast.
2007-11-19 12:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to let go an move she is only making things worse for you an her so just stop calling an whatever else!!
2007-11-19 12:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by ajjsdj4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you need to do is CUT her OFF completely and tell her either she wants to get back together or your moving on to find someone who wishes to be with you.
2007-11-19 12:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very strange. If there's no hope with her, don't answer her anymore. Unless you enjoy being a play thing.
2007-11-19 12:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your young so move on and get a new g/f and she dumped you so why are you talking to her.
now if you want her back just say so and see what happens good luck
2007-11-19 12:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋