What is the best age to have a "sex" talk with your child?

Question

Because it seems kids these days are getting younger and younger when they start interacting sexually wiht the opposite sex.

Answer 1

a.s.a.p

kids nowadays catch on really fast and are smart and if you don't tell them they will learn it in school or from friends.

they should know by the time they are in middle school, unfortunately.

Answer 2

I started thinking about sex at 11, and I think it's a good time to have a pre-talk, just highlight the facts, check to make sure they don't have any huge misconceptions about sex (like that the guy pees inside the girl, for example...)
When they make it to 14 have the big talk. All about the actual mechanics of sex, contraception, STDs, the emotional repercusions, clear up a few myths (like condoms disolve in water, you can't get pregnant if he just doesn't come inside you, etc). Tell them they can talk to whenever the need to about it, and tell them your willing to have a non-judgmental chat when they do have sex about their experience.
When they actually have sex sit down and ask them how they feel about it, are they having any regrets, did they need to talk about anything.
If my folks had been this way, it would have made things a lot easier for me...

Answer 3

You're right, and because of that reality I favor a vectored approach to the subject from a very early age...not in graphic detail obviously, but in a manner that recognizes basic biological realities (to demystify the subject and guard against erroneous information from outside sources) and lays the groundwork for continued dialogue as their maturity to handle additional details increases. (knowing your child is critical for this to work properly, though). This approach makes them aware early on of distinctions between proper and improper manners of touching, and acts as a buffer to communication should they encounter some creepy behavior from potential offenders. Later on, it helps them more confidently deal with the hormonal confusion of reaching puberty...forewarned is forearmed. Lastly, it protects them to a degree against peer pressure at times when they are likely to be their own worse enemies by helping them make the healthiest possible choices. This isn't condoning early sexual behavior, but recognizes it as a fact of life. It is a fluid but very valuable strategy.

Answer 4

It should be a part of your conversation by the time they are in school. It is not at all embarrassing to them if you start talking about it while they are young. If you wait until they are teens, it will embarrass them to no end if you try to talk about it.It doesn't have to be deep and detailed.

Answer 5

once i read a book that said u shud put a book about puberty like "It's Perfectly Normal" with a sticky note on it that says somthing like 'Come to me if u hav ne questions' on their bed when theyre 13

Answer 6

As soon as they are old enough to ask.

I have always been open with my children about sex and sexuality. I see no reason not to be, if they are old enough to ask, they are old enough for answers.

Answer 7

it is not a matter of age, it's a matter of how mature your child is. depending on the age that would be the answer you give them without going into detail

Answer 8

my parents had "the talk" with me when i was ten