Ok, I am in LOVE with a girl that is mormon, she lives in utah. I live in Florida, I know in the long run she wants me to convert and i LOVE this girl to death but dont respect the religion. my family is against me moving out to be with her cause they feel like i will be gone forever. I LOVE this girl and have been home for 3 months and our relationship has come down to me move out there for the holidays or its OVER. sooo idk what to do, my family is SOOO important to me, my father was killed around this time 2 years ago so the holidays is sad for my family and my moms my best friend, shes not making it easy on me and neither is my girl friend. I have never been so confused in my life and feel like im in the depths of despair. PLEASE HELP ME SOMEBODY, i need some advice from anyone
2007-11-19 11:55:10 · 8 answers · asked by jake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's the deal. You can make it work, but only if you respect the other's religion. In your second sentence you just kissed the relationship goodbye. If you don't respect her religion, you can't make it work. I'm sorry.
2007-11-20 08:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sherpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion plays a huge part in marriages so the two of you need to agree how it will impact your life together and how your children will be raised. It would seem that hers is more important to her than you or your feelings of family. If you allow her to pull you away from your family, you will resent her always. You have no interest in being a Mormon and you know she would want you to convert. This is not a relationship you should continue. Love isn't enough to make this relationship ever work.
2007-11-19 12:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here being Mormon should take no circumstances in this situation. Long distance relationships and no knowing this girl should. You sound young. Live life a little bit more before committing to move half way across the US to be with a girl you "love".
2007-11-20 02:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her family will discourage (maybe even forbid her) to see you unless you convert NOW. Dating is for marriage ONLY in the Mormon way of thinking. Be honest with her and tell her you have no intention of converting. Her answer will save you the move, believe me. Anytime someone gives you an ultimatim like this, you should realize that it is HUGE red flag. Never make a major life decision like this under duress. Good Luck to you. :)
2007-11-19 12:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is a staunch, practising Mormon, then, yes. Her religion will play a large role. I have many friends and family who converted to Mormonism so they could marry a certain person. They need to be married in the temple, and you can't unless you are one, and you have to get baptised, etc. If you don't respect that religion, I think you'd just better cut it off now.
2007-11-19 11:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just know that if she is truly a practicing Mormon, she will a) not have sex (or much else) with you until you are married, and b) she will not marry you unless you are Mormon. Since it sounds like you have no intention to convert (nor should you), the relationship is already essentially over, as it will never really progress beyond where it is now.
Do yourself a favor. As hard as it may be, just get over this girl and find one (or more) that actually shares similar values with you.
2007-11-19 12:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Eric 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Conditional love, leave it be, if the only way she can love you is out there she can't equal the unconditional love of your family. YOu can go be with her, be an idiot and they still let you back, how about you spare you and the family the heart breck, leave the ***** alone....
2007-11-19 11:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Chris Rock said it best. "If you're born-again, he has to be born-again, if you're a crackhead, shes got to be a crackhead".
2007-11-19 11:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋