I want so badly to adopt my step-daughter. My husband gained full custody of her 4 years ago due to abuse. She doesn't call and hasn't seen her in a year next month. She hasn't paid child support since Nov. 04. My daughter wants me to be her mommy and doesn't want her other mom. My husband and I both want her to be mine officially but his ex wont sign the papers. We even told her that we would forgive all owed child support if she signed the papers. Is there anything I can I do? I am going to contact an attorney as soon as we can afford to go through such a legal battle.
2007-11-19 09:50:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that when I adopt her it's for life not just until she's 18. That's what adoption is. You don't stop being a parent once they are out of the house. I love her and she loves me. She calls me mommy and her mom by her name. We have tried to tell her not to but she says she's not her mom.
2007-11-19 11:15:46 · update #1
Depending on the state you live in your husband can petition the courts for all parenting rights on ground of abandonment since she hasn't had contact. then once they take all parenting rights from her. you would be able to adopt.
2007-11-19 10:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by fishinbum 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a chance if the mom doesn't release parental rights. You can keep pressuring her with the child support, but even with that you should be careful (and maybe run that practice by your lawyer). While it seems logical to offer to let her off the hook and for you to take responsibility, you have to avoid the appearance that you are trying to buy your child. But I don't think you'll get anything better than full custody to the father out of a court unless she signs her rights away.
2007-11-19 09:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the mother is willing to give up her parental rights as a mother, then yes it can be done. and since there is a mother willing to take financial and legal responsibilty, then most judges wouldn't object. as for signing off on all owed support, you may not have a say so if back child support is being issued by the DA's office. since they do require a fee.
just keep in mind, that once this is all done no matter what happens to you and your husband this for good until she is 18. you can't take it back. not even a DNA test makes this go away.
2007-11-19 11:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is abusive and wont pay for child support take that to court have the judge decide chances are he will allow it considering she isnt being a good mother a mother figure at all.
2007-11-19 09:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Hi T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A attorney might be able to help but you will have to get her to sign those papers.
2007-11-19 10:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by karls dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will possibly want to touch a criminal expert. the father might could conform to renounce his parental rights and so you might undertake his daughter. some states understand abandonment, others do no longer. it is why it is right to talk to a criminal expert.
2016-10-17 07:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by kosmoski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would wait untill, you get a attorney. They really can help.!
2007-11-19 09:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do nothing unless she gives up parental rights.
2007-11-19 10:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋