I'm involved with a married woman. Have been for 9 months now. She was married for 4 months before we started talking. She says she's never cheated on anyone before. If she gets a divorce... do you think she'll cheat on me too ? Is it true... once a cheater... always a cheater ?
2007-11-19 09:38:32 · 44 answers · asked by Ozzie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No its not true that once a cheater, always a cheater, but it is a possibility. You have to ask yourself, what were the circumstances that she uses to allow herself to cheat, and how likely it is that you two could avoid doing the same thing?
Is she lying to her husband? Is she telling you that she needs "to find the right time" to tell him? Does he, the husband, treat her like a wife, or a stranger? Is it the thrill of sneaking around that is the main attraction for her? The fact that she hasn't started the divorce proceedings is NOT a good sign. Is he abusive, controlling? How moral is she otherwise, or is cheating just one of her bad traits?
Look to what you know of her, and then decide if there is really a chance for the two of you. Or are you just being used?
2007-11-19 09:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't believe once a cheater always a cheater (there are certain times where people make mistakes in relationships), but I DO believe that someone that cheats with you will probably cheat ON you. Do you get the difference? Past that, if you have the morals to cheat with a woman that is married, what does that say about you? She's married... leave her alone and find a woman that is single.
2007-11-19 10:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? You answer your own questions. She'll cheat, she's cheating and like you said a cheater is always a cheater, or do you have to be married to her to find out. Can't you find a single woman?
2007-11-19 11:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by carol p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that cheat are looking for something that they can not find in their current relationship. If they are cheating, they feel like that is an easier way of facing the problem rather than confronting the person or working on the relationship. So yes, I believe that if a man or woman cheats once, they will be inclined to do so again when things get rough.
2007-11-19 09:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by heb8478 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say for sure because she was married for such a short time before she cheated with you and she is still married.
I was married for 5 years and then I cheated on my husband. I divorced him 3 months later and stayed with the guy I cheated on my husband with. 2 years later, I am faithful and have no intentions of ever cheating.
2007-11-19 10:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she'll do the same to you.. This is exciting for her now.. Once everything comes out, it won't be and you'll be replaced.. Or she'll continue seeing you and someone on the side just like she's doing to her husband with you.. Turn in the other direction and run... Nothing good ever comes out of a dishonest relationship.. Not only that but do you really want to be with a person that lies and cheats?
2007-11-19 09:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Caligirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's necessarily a fair statement. Because she could have known that you were the right one for her right off the bat when she was with her husband, and now she's with you and him. However, if you two have agreements before getting together, then maybe she'll honor yours. Not enough information here to determine what the specifics are of why she cheated with you on her husband.
2007-11-19 11:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's true. Once a cheater always a cheater. She's bad news, find someone that u can trust 100%.
2007-11-19 10:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes this woman can’t even respect her wedding vows. She will eventually find a new piece of meat and ditch you to the curb. Of course your no better sir, as if there aren’t enough woman in the world that you have to shack up with a married woman. Your almost as bad as her. Lets face it if your willing to be with a married woman whats going to keep you from one day cheating on a future wife.
2007-11-19 10:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure all I know my husband cheated on his wife with he gf then he got with her cheated on her with his ex got back with her and cheated on her with me and then he cheated on me with another women so to me once a cheater always a cheater but who knows it is possible it is not.Time will tell do you think she will cheat again ask your heart.
2007-11-19 09:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋