Do I have a reason to be mad?

Question

I like the answers in this section... they're a lot more thought out than the ones found in the Singles & Dating part.

My boyfriend and I let go of a serious relationship about 3 months ago due to distance. He still called me on the phone every few days, because we agreed to be friends. Last week, he sent me this long love letter asking me if I still loved him- he told me he cries at night, and a bunch of other cute mushy gushy stuff. He was incredibly passionate, so much that it actually seemed like he'd never get over it. I believed it- because he was always like that.
I told him we had to let go, if not for the time being; it'd be easier, and if we're meant to be we'll get back together.
Then he sent me another telling me he couldn't let go- the letter was even more passionate than the first. It sounded a little obsessive, but knowing him, it sounded like he'd never get over it.
Last night he called me at 1 AM. He started complaining about things, but didn't even mention the letter he wrote me.

Other then those few problems, he seemed fine. He told me what he did this weekend, and how he met some attractive girl. This threw me off because he had sounded so desperate a week ago. I started to wonder if the things he told me were always exaggerated...
Then I asked him what the letter he wrote me was all about, he told me he didn't even know what I was talking about! Like it never happened or something….
It's not that I care if he's seeing other girls. I WANT him to let go. But to pretend he's so devastated, and then move on with ease? And to lie and tell me that he doesn’t know what I’m talking about? I was so mad, I hung up right there and then. Don’t I have a reason to be upset?

Answer 1

Yes, but don't be. Don't give him the honor of having an effect on you what so ever.

Hang out with your girl friends, get a makeover, go shopping, chill out at home with a good movie, buy a dog----forget about that loser.

Answer 2

First of all I would be a bit mystified at his behavior. What is he complaining about? If he has a new girlfriend, let him go. I would be very concerned over someone who seems to be so obsessive and controlling. He has his life and you have yours. Write down the pros and cons of this relationship and see if you really want to deal with this fellow and his behavior. He sounds very immature and you are not his mother. How about he grows up and at a later date see if you two still have something in common if that suits you. Blessings on you.

Answer 3

well from your point of view then yes, but your in philosophy my dear... If he can actually be that passionate one minute then move on the next he might be bi-polar. but it sound to me more like a prank. on of his friends could have written that note or he could have just have a epiphany. he might have realized that for YOU to be happy, which is what if he truly loves you is what he really wants, your happiness. then he might have figured he should move on for YOUR sake. IF he was really that passionate about you then to him it's all about YOU. so if he seems to have moved on then you should be happy, you got what you want. Keep this in mind, i'm speaking from experience, if you ever need him all you have to do is ask. He'll never be over you, he probably just locked up all of his feelings for you and through them in the back of his heart to make room for new feelings. He'll only open that box for your sake, he's there for you. Until you need him, keep in touch, don't burn those bridges. don't go thinking your his world. If he's the kinda guy i think he is then he's not going to drop the girl he's dating just for you, he's too nice, or passionate, or moral to hurt his girl for you. but he's still there. Is that a good enough answer for you?

Answer 4

I am not Abby" but an old man who understands young men. If you are the one who initiated your "separation" then you have no reason to be upset if you don't secretly want to get back together. You have to understand that most guys will do, say and write any thing to a girl if they think there is a chance they can "get into her pants!" They usually "get over a girl" if another prospect comes along.

This is harsh reality, good mental health, peace and Love!

Answer 5

Ever consider that maybe he didn't write those letters? Maybe someone playing a trick on you (jealousy, perhaps?) I'm not saying that's what it is, but it's just a theory.

Answer 6

1. He's very immature

2. He's Bi-polar.

gotta be one or the other.

Answer 7

i do not know what the question is but buy a spoodbender! all your worries will go away!

Answer 8

split personality?

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