and other stuff like that?
(not in a joking manner... more in a screaming angry manner.)
2007-11-19 09:23:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes teenagers push buttons on their parents and it is easy to have an outburst, but I hope the mother when settled down talks to her daughter rationally and apologises for her outburst
2007-11-19 09:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it's normal, but then again what is normal anyway?
I went through what you are going through, and maybe even a lot worse. 10 years later, me and my mother don't even speak, I hope that you and your mom don't end up the same way.
There's two pieces of advice I'd like to give you, take it or leave it, that is your choice.
1. Mom's are human too. They are far from perfect and screw up every now and then. I don't know if yours is a single mom like mine was, but she probably has a lot going on if she's lashing out at you. It's probably not about you at all, and sometimes families take for granted the people who will always be there by using each other as means to vent frustration. Forgive her even when you are pissed. Remind yourself that you love her, no matter what.
2. Gut-check yourself when any lash-out goes too far. Some angry words are excusable, some last forever. Physical abuse is NEVER excusable. Don't become someone who makes excuses for anyone who hurts you. It's a world of pain.
Basically, find a balance between being understanding and not being a doormat.
And be sure to let me know if you ever figure out exactly how to do that. :-)
2007-11-19 18:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Fifteen-year-olds can take it. If the teen is really acting like a jerk to her mom, then I'd say screaming is not out of place. Yelling and cursing are not the best options, but parents are human, too. You'll never know how hard parenting is until you are one.
2007-11-19 18:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal in my house I wouldn't even take "Shut the hell up" that serious anymore, I've heard it so many time in my life. She tells me way worse. Just yesterday she said "I'll bi+ch slap you". And I'm turning out just fine. I'm a straight A student, basketball player, Band student, Native American Society & agrilculture (NASA) club member, band student, former volleyball player, Vice president of the BETA Club, Treasurer of the ABC club, and a nationally recognized Duke T.I.P scholar since 4th grade. Oh but trust me I'm no angel!!! :)
2007-11-19 17:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Right now, in the days of no discipline, I would say that it's rare. Back when I was coming up, heck yeah it was normal. Or some variation of "shut the hell up". At 15, I heard lots of the following (at top volume):
"Shut your little ignorant mouth right now!"
"Don't make me come over there!"
"Child, I will come over there and knock you the hell out!"
"What did you say? Don't you roll those eyes at me. I will smack those eyes off on the floor!"
"Bring your butt in here! No, now!!! Dammit, you better carry your little narrow lazy butt in here RIGHT NOW!!"
"Uh-uh, I KNOW you did NOT just answer me back!! Girl, I will JACK YOU UP!!!"
What amazes me now is that my mom is so calm and serene. What happened to that screaming, hysterical, psychotic woman who took me through my teens? And of course she totally denies everything now. My sister and I think it's selective senility brought on by menopause.
2007-11-19 17:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes, hey mom is human gets angry and makes mistakes we all say things that we regret later. Wait till she cools off and then tell her how those words made u feel
2007-11-19 17:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by lauriravanell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter if it is or is not normal. The mom SHOULD NOT do that. She is setting an example for her daughter to follow if she chooses to be a mother. Those types of phrases are hurtful towards the child, and immature on the mother's part. A simple, "Shush" or "Quiet," in a firm, not yelling, tone would suffice. I would honestly expect "SHUT THE HELL UP" from the daughter, not the mother.
2007-11-19 17:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Maybe your mum just needs a bit of space... I know I fight with my mum alot when i'm home but 3 years ago I started boarding school and when i'm at school i realise how important my family is to me... Don't take them for granted as one day you may just push your mum to the limit!
2007-11-20 05:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my mom tells me to shut the **** up and stuff like that all the time. She's always like **** you and stuff like that but its not normal no.
2007-11-19 18:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by depressed_blue_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ! normal and i expect that the daughter does it to her too, (because shes a teen) we are only human and can only take so much. we would all love to be calm and collected all the time but circumstances dont allow it, stress creeps in and we say things we regret, thats life!
2007-11-19 17:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋