what are your views on self harm?

Question

just wondering like,.

i didn't say i do.
still. im not saying i dont.
im not saying nothing (:

Answer 1

Other people harm us enough, why harm ourselves?

Answer 2

it's an unhealthy coping mechanism that can actually make you feel better in harsh times. but it's addictive, and it scars badly (trust me i know) so i hope for anyone else who self harms that they can get the help they need to get to the root of the problem, before they do themselves some serious damage. (((HUGS))) to all self harmers.

and to all those who think self harmers are attention seeking, or should just 'cut deep around the jugular', clearly haven't been there themselves or ever had any problems such as depression, and need to stop being so insensitive and ignorant. also, self harming is not a half-attempt at suicide - it is a way of trying to prevent suicide through COPING. people don't make such a fuss towards those who drink themselves silly, so why make such a fuss towards self harmers, when the aim is exactly the same? people being insensitive make the situation worse.

snow_flake - totally agree with you. well said.

Answer 3

Well, it obviously serves a purpose.

There are a few causes / reasons for it and in my limited experience, it seems to come about for reasons that are a cross spectrum of various issues of A: low self esteem: B: an inability to articulate: C: not being heard, or D: not being taken seriously ~ which in many ways amounts to the same thing.

The point is that I'm giving a generalised answer to a likely complex series of answers with their roots in a complex compound of emotion ~ which are experienced as 'difficult to articulate. And this is often because the individual doesn't have the emotional vocabulary to express the self ~ and as I've said, has difficulty in being heard and or taken seriously.

Sash.

Answer 4

Hmmm, used to do it, but it's only reasonable if you have a good reason. For example, if you're saying a certain person does self harm for attention, there's a problem there, since the person is willing to actually hurt themselves for attention. However, self-harm is usually done in situations of dire depression, and if it's a serious situation, you'll know by the extent of the harm.

Hope this helps with...whatever reason you're asking....

Answer 5

let me just say one thing first - people who have never done it should NEVER EVER say it's "stupid" or "dumb" or whatever. they have never experienced it so how could they possibly know, unless they were some hypocrite preaching on about "this is how you should live your life" and stupid things like that.
sometimes it just can't be avoided. i think it's a good thing in a way, coz if you keep all these worries bottled up inside, you'll end up going mental with all this distress and it could end up seriously damaging. the bad thing is that one day, you might cut too deep and you'll end up dead.
overall, i think it's acceptable to a degree, but when it becomes a danger then the person would need help asap.

Answer 6

self harm can be many things, people being alcoholic, becoming addicted to drugs or cigarettes so really we all self harm, someone who smokes and drinks alot all their life would do alot more damage than someone who cuts their arms a bit, i think self harm whatever it may be is all linked to a problem trying to be solved in the wrong way

Answer 7

Such as? There is mistakes we make, addictions we can develop, or deliberate self mutilation such as by cutting or attempted suicide. Mistakes happen, addictions are hard to over come, deep emotional duress can lead to the cutting and suicide. What can I say? All of us need help from time to time. I do not reject or condemn anyone who is hurting-I would do all I could to help them.

Answer 8

I you are cutting on yourself it means that you need help. Not that you are a bad person but that you are going through - and have gone through - some difficult things and you need help with it. I hope you can reach out for this help. There are many avenues to do so, depending on your age and circumstances. Call a county mental health facility to get information on where to start.

Answer 9

I think you are referring to cutting. I was a cutter a long time ago because I couldn't express my anger and pain any other way. Whenever I did it, I would feel much better and the pain would go away temporarily. It gives you a sort of rush. I wouldn't recommend it though. I put all of my feelings into my writing now.

Answer 10

from what i understand, it's a coping mechanism.. and it seems to be a dangerous and unhealthy one that ultimately tends to make things worse..

assuming you're talking about things like self-mutilation..

i've never tried it, but i guess i can understand why some might..

then again, there are so many different ways in which we harm ourselves.. sometimes without even noticing..

Answer 11

Physical pain can be easier to deal with than emotional pain.
It takes away the emotional pain for a short while.
So I believe.