ok, i have this friend named rachel. and we are best friends! i am not popular, and she is! she is like a guy magnet! i don't get jelous, but, it seems like i never see her anymore and we live across the street! all the guys put on a show for her! they dont act like themselves so she would like them! we tried teling her, we knew them since 1 grade!
i told her i felt left out! but things are ok! we have 7 periods not including lunch and we have gym last! things go ok until gym! that's when the guy's flirt w/ her! she is awesome at sports, and me... not so much! what should i do! i think it would be rude if i told her she couldn't hand out w/ them!!!! so, beside that, what should i do????
2007-11-19 08:31:33 · 19 answers · asked by oldxsneakerz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask her about it
2007-11-19 08:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do is to be gracious and appreciate her company when you have it, but learn to rely on her less. You need some new friends to fill in for when she isn't around, because you realize that this won't end. It sounds like she is basically a good friend, because she hasn't dumped you for the guys - you say it is only during gym that this is a problem - so you should keep her friendship, but don't act too clingy. You clearly have no business telling her whom she can and can't hang out with. Being a best friend doesn't always mean spending all of your time with someone. My best friend lives in another state now, and we talk by phone once a week. The rest of the time we both spend with other friends and acquaintances.
2007-11-19 16:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by neniaf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to focus less on her and more on you. If she's ignoring you or whatever, then maybe you need to get too busy for her. Find new friends. Some people are just more outgoing than other people. I wish I could be more outgoing, but I'm just not. Other people are outgoing by nature. It sounds like maybe your friend is, too. I know it can be depressing when a friend gets all the attention and you feel left out. But, ask youself....are you expecting too much from your friend? I mean, are you expecting her to focus all her attention on you...like in gym? From what you say, it sounds like everything is fine until gym where you're maybe not the center of her world. If she ignores you around guys or if she just has other friends in her life (which she is allowed to have and you are too), there isn't much you can do except like I said....try and make other friends and get too busy for her sometimes. DON'T start telling her that you feel left out and lonely and unimportant like someone said to do. This will ONLY make her distance more!!!! Because for you to say that means that you are depending on her and no one likes to feel pressured that way! Telling her that could actually backfire on you! I'm telling you this from my own experience!
2007-11-19 16:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem.
She might have one of those personalities that begs for attention, and she wants you to constantly recognize that she is higher on the popularity scale.
If she isn't nice to you when around these people, she probably isnt a very good friend.
Another thing you could do (this is what i did)
is surround yourself with other friends to show her that you dont need to follow her around to get friends, maybe then she will realize how valuable you are and come to YOU. That might also make her start to realize about the whole "guy magnet" thing.
Hope that helps!!
2007-11-19 16:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Blondieeee™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can't tell her she can't hang out with them, that's not up to you to decide. It's normal for guys to act different around her, you all are getting older and guys are starting to like her. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, walk away. Ahh, I'm not to good at sports either, and my friends are great but it doesnt really bother me because I know I might be better at something else. I'm sure you're good at something she's not, not everyones good at Everything. I don't know how old you are but i'm 14 and trust me everythings going to start changing before your eyes. If you feel you never see her anymore, invite her over, maybe for a sleepover or out to the movies. Good luck!
2007-11-19 16:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the only time you're not seeing her in gym class? Then don't worry about it. That's one period of an entire day that you don't get to hang out. Use that time to make new friends or talk to a boy you like.
If the only class you have together is gym and you don't see her, call her after school and get together. Make time to hang out with her.
2007-11-19 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a little jealous so just tell her that you think she acts different during gym and that you are jealous of her. If she's a real friend she will understand and include you in the conversations and whatever
2007-11-19 16:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You def dont need to tell her to not hang out with them because that would just make her mad. I think you should tell her how u are feeling, and you need to do it in a way that she will now you are being serious. Like go out to eat or something get her by herself that way she can concentrate fully on what you are saying without any destractions(the guys).
2007-11-19 16:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by * B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell her how it feels. I know it must hurt deeply to lose your best friend. [I know.] You have to accept that she i going to have friends and guys around her no matter where she goes or what she does. If you tell her not to hang with them she will get mad. Just tell her you feel lonely and unimportant. Is that true? Then schedule some time for just the two of you. Best of luck =]
2007-11-19 16:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by +:GoodLife78+ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go over to her house and tell her that. hopefully she will listen to you and start hanging out with you some more. i mean you never know if she really misses you too. Once i had a friend who just stopped hanging out with me. i went to talk to her and we started hangning out more. It helped alot when we got put in the same class we started hanging out even more. noe im even better friend with her then i was before!!!!!!!!! so just try it no matter what happens you wil know that you tryed
2007-11-19 16:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Claire D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miss sumone too but I wont get 2 c him 4 a day or so...lol. Anywayz, tell her how u feel but honestly, she mite like tha attention all 2 herself
2007-11-19 16:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by â?¥Mz_Kim_2Uâ?¥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋