In moving from one home to another a couple of years back, someone stole a bunch of boxes from me. In some there were clothing, kitchen things and old love letters. Of all the things I miss, are my old love letters, to the point of it really, really bothering me. (I wanted them just to kind of look back on when I was old.
Any thoughts of how to get over these feelings?
I have now met someone who is "the one", but the letters from old loves still hold a special place (please don't tell me this is wrong, because it's not. I have never known another man as wonderful as the one I'm with now).
Any suggestion would be wonderful.
Thanks.
2007-11-19 08:16:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The answers above are all pretty great, however if you could have moved on you would have, So I think you need a more proactive approach.
First, I imagine you have tried to find out who stole your stuff, where it is at, if they still have it, etc. Did you ever file a police report? Who knows maybe they busted someone for stealing (although I don't know the circumstances) and your boxes are somewhere in a police dept. Far-fetched, but possible.
Secondly, like the posters above said, if you remember some of what was said, ask a friend to help you recreate them. If you do it, when you are old and gray you'll know you did, but if someone else does, it will "feel" a lot better.
2007-11-19 08:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Smith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old love letters are a precious resource and I would miss mine as much. Since yours are long gone why not make a journal of past loves and the letters and moments you recall. You could even incorporate a photo or two. The stroll down memory lane will be cleansing and help you let go of that past and once you are all done begin a Diary of your current love, make sure to include little notes as to why he is so much more than the others. This new Diary will help you when you have bad days (and they will arise) you can remember why this relationship is so important to you. It will also be a pleasant keepsake for your children when you are too old to recall in detail all the wonders of your life. Good Luck!
2007-11-19 16:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with a pen and paper and jot down notes of what was said in them that was really special.
And then really ask your self if your actually attached to the possesion of the letters or are you okay that you have the memories and the feelings that someone cared enough for you to write such tears of endearment for you?
Sometimes we get attached to property because we can feel it and we can equate it with something but you'll never loose the memories of these letters, just the phsyical property of them.
2007-11-19 16:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by washington_maverick 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. i used to keep all my letters and my family would always go thru them and a lot of them were very personal. so i knew that i couldn't keep them anymore . so i went out side and burned them. it was very emotional becasue it was a lot of memories and sometimes i wish i still had them to look back like you said. but the truth is that the memories will always be in your heart. no matter what we do. the letters are go. so enjoy the present. and let the past be the past. no matter how bad it hurts. good luck and sorry,
2007-11-19 16:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by chedderapples 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start writing a journal and write down as much as you know about what was in those letters. then when you're old, you'll be able to read your journal and remember the letters.
2007-11-19 16:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame your letters were stolen, but I think it's best to completely let go.
Remember that your memories can never be stolen.
2007-11-19 16:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋