My husband and I have been seperated for 1 month due to him cheating on me with his ex. I made him leave the house and we didnt speak for a couple of days. But he's already talking to other women. We've been together for 4 years(married 2 years) and he acts as if he could care less about the split up. He moved 10 hours away and he doesnt even bother calling me or calling to check up in our son. I want to talk to him but I dont want to call him to see what made him do what he did but I know I shouldnt when he's the one that cheated and should be calling me.
2007-11-19 08:03:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At this point maybe you are upset with yourself for falling in love and not seeing this side of him. Don't waste your time. You saw something in him that he let you think was there, but it wasn't in the end. I don't know why people can act like they care and make you think it's real for so long...and then just be able to walk away. But don't waste anymore time on this jerk. He is done. Now you be done. Move on as quickly as you can. I know it is so much harder to do than it is for us to say it to you, but truly you will look back some day and be so grateful that you moved on.
I know how it hurts so much deep inside when someone you thought was your life betrays you but every day is a new day and can be the begining of another chapter. For your son's sake as well as your own, keep moving forward and don't look back. And keep saying..good riddance to him. You deserve better and he just gave you the freedom to find it.
2007-11-20 07:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you son does need his father but if he does not want to be in his son life do not force him to be. Second you need to go to your nearest health and social services department have them help you get information on how to get child support and when you do. Let the court know that he does not want to see him or anything and has not effort on seeing him. Then you will have your son with you and you will go on this man was not worth you and you value you more then the whore he cheated on you with and you know what any man out there is going to want you and when he see's you are gone he will feel the saying you do not know what you have until you lose it and that is what is going to happen to him you are a good women and he is an idiot for letting you go.
2007-11-19 08:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lost 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, honey, he cheated on you, with another woman, I am assuming. You have to get over it and stop calling him, and just get an attorney and file for a legal seperation, and have an attorney get him for child support.
He has to at least pay you for child support, and if he wants visitation to see his son, that has to be worked out between you and your ex.
It sounds like you also should go to counseling to get over your ex, there is a reason why you are seperated, and there is a reason why he cheated on you, your life is better off without him, you have to realize that, and so is your son's life.
If you really have questions, about why he did what he did, you should see a counselor to help you deal with your feelings and all of your questions, a counselor will help give you the tools to deal with this.
It sounds like to me, it all struck you at once and now you are having a hard time dealing with your personal life, why he left you, and you being a single parent.
I suggest you get counseling.
2007-11-19 08:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a guy realizes he messed up and loves someone believe me they'd do anything to win you back. To me this is the complete opposite. I don't know the reason why he is uncaring but if he doesn't realize it now he will soon realize it when it's too late. To make matters worse you have a son that he does not even check up on. I would just forget about him and let him mess up his life more than he already has by cheating on you and losing his family.
2007-11-19 08:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get out of his life/ get him out of your life...fast!
Your husband is in a mess,( he is having too many relationships-his ex, you, the new women in his life ) he is not a responsible husband or father and he will cause you more unhappinesss.Being upset will not help you to be the best mother to your son.Recognise that
you need help...get the support of family, friends and/or support groups.Start a new life with your son.Look for a job or work from home to support your son and yourself.Be firm,do not take him back...for if you do, you will find yourself on a roller coaster as he plays on the emotions of the women in his life coz as someone says,"Men are wired that way."
Good luck!
2007-11-19 10:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, i would not let pride get in the way. You should call him at least for your son only, do not waste your time on him as is other than for your child. I know it hurts now, but do you really want to call and lower your self esteem to try and work things out when he does not even give a hoot about your marriage and seems to have moved on faster than speedy Gonzales. Take time out for you to heal, if he wants to make this marriage work he has to be the one to put in the effort not you.
2007-11-19 08:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, someone has to take up responsibility and make that call. It's better to do it sooner rather than later. You have to get all of this sorted out. Plus, the longer this goes out, the longer your child is caught in the middle. Sorry about the situation, but I hope everything turns out for the best.
2007-11-19 08:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He cheated for a reason. Not to sound mean but maybe it was you. Some women go into a relationship thinking that they can control a man because they think they have gold between there legs. I think everything happens for a reason. If you still want him as your husband as bad as it could be for you maybe suck it up and be the bigger person give him a call. Good luck
2007-11-19 08:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Gregory H 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He's definetly over you and you gave him the perfect excuse and the liberty to contunue with his partying freely.
He will not call you to hear you nag, cry or tell him how bad of a father he is. He has no morals and he is not interested in being a doting father and a caring husband.
Rubbing it on his his is not going to make him crawl back. You cannot teach people to have morals and force them to love you and do the right thing.
Sorry
2007-11-19 08:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that he did that to you I have NO idea how people can do that to each other! I am really sorry for your child, as bad as this sounds but if you divorce, you can gain FULL custody of your Son because he abandoned him and hasn't been caring for him! I hope that all works out OK for you! I wouldn't give the sorry loser another chance if he truly loved you he wouldn't have cheated!
2007-11-19 08:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋