and has actually loaded a gun and put it in their mouth begging you to stay yet has affairs and does anything he wants until he get caught.
2007-11-19 07:31:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just leave. That sounds cold, but he will not kill himself. He normally knows how to manipulate you, but is out of otherwise working options.
If he were so desperate for your love, he would not continuously have affairs.
Just walk out and if he really did kill himself, it would not be your fault. He is abusing you and not the other way around and I am sure he would not kill himself.
Take care,
Troy
2007-11-19 07:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, I went out w/ someone like that! It was total hell! He had a gun & threatened to kill himself everytime I wanted to leave. He was a master manipulator & that's what your bf is. Seriously, you should not stay because of that. He is a total control freak. I ended up telling the guy's family about his suicidal tendencies to get him some help. If you aren't close to the family, contact the police. This guy is a loose cannon, he may even put that gun to your head. Don't mean to scare you, but the guy I dated, used to threaten to kill everyone close to me. I left the country for a while & when I came back I went into hiding. I hope your situation doesn't end up that bad. Btw, I did file a restraining order. You may need that, but just be careful & never walk alone. I had police escorts around campus which made me very depressed. I couldn't live a normal life. Please get some help. You don't need this. This is a form of abuse!
2007-11-19 07:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is being very selfish and scaring you into staying with them. It's not healthy for you. You need to make arrangements to leave then before you do go to the police. explain the situation to them and advise them that he has a loaded gun and has threatened to use it. Make sure your partner does not know where you are going. You staying cannot help this person. It may sound cruel but if he's going to do it then nothing you do will stop him and why should you bring yourself down and have no quality of life because this person is being selfish.
2007-11-19 09:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, quickly. If he's not there you should leave now. Or if you want to talk it out, ask someone to be there with you (like a brother or your dad or the police) and have them help you move your stuff.
I don't know the guy, but from what you've said he sounds desperate, selfish and dangerous. He is using your guilt to keep you there. But this won't work forever and he may turn that gun on you. Leave as soon as you can and go someplace safe.
2007-11-19 07:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by coca_chupa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...
Call the police and tell them of your situation. Tell them that he has not threatened you but himself. This will document the situation even though they may not do anything.
Leave him a note at his house or where he lives and tell him that you do not want to be contacted or it will have legal ramifications. Thank him for the relationship but you can not be in a relationship with a man who can not control himself or be faithful.
This is a control issue. If you let him contact you even once he will be after you always. Please for your own good and and your future children and happiness, leave him while you are both still alive.
2007-11-19 07:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by berns63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit much drama. If I was in your situation I would have asked if he would prefer cremation or a casket?
Get your purse, your car keys and get out when he is not home. Find a friends house or someone to stay with that he does not know about.
2007-11-19 07:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Amber B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police expain to them that you want to leave your husband but he has shown in the past of being suicidal by placing agun in his mouth and if they could send a squad car to your home if he does something. That you are afraid of him and what he may do to himself or you. Tell the police that he has had numerous affairs and that you cannot deal with it anymore and it apperas he is going crazy.
2007-11-19 07:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You accept that you are not responsible for his choices. You walk out the door and say if you blow your head off it is your decision not mine. You should not allow yourself to be held hostage like this. If you close the door and hear the gun fire then you call 911 without looking back in the door. Some people are sick in the head and this is a good example of one.
2007-11-19 07:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
He is using this to control you. What are you going to do when he sticks the gun in your mouth? Do not give him the opportunity. Get out fast and don't look back. He is a coward and he will not do it. If he does he has mental problems that you could not fix. You deserve better than this.
2007-11-19 07:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Let him pull the trigger. I bet he wont do it. He is just trying to keep you around as a piece when he is not with his little girlfriend. And if he does pull the trigger. So what he has done the world a favor. He was a cheating piece of crap.
2007-11-19 07:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋