What to do with my husband's friend who always ask him out to go-go bar?

Question

His friend is single and no girlfriend. He's over 40 years old but still hang out in go-go bar. He has a lot of friends he met in go-go bar, both male and female. He's been friend with all exotic dancer. I never liked when my husband go and hang out with him. I feel threaten and now he's married he shouldn't act like he's still single and go hanging out in those bars. Most of the time, his friend will call or send him messages to go out. If not, he rarely goes by himself. I feel like it gonna ruin our marriage life one day if he doesn't stop. How do I cope with this?

Answer 1

GO WITH HIM! I know, I know... sounds strange. But really, he picked you to marry and spend the rest of his life with. If you ask to go (and weather you want to or not is not the question here) then the fun and the excitment might just be gone (or you will find a new side of your sex life you never imagined). Strip clubs can be fun and if you believe that your partner is committed to you - what's the harm.

I was married to a jerk who managed to magically get a VIP card to a strip club. I was furious. However when I met my current husband, he was open and honest about wanting to go. He even asks me to go with him. Suck in your stomach, poke out your breasts, throw on some make up and get moving. He obviously chose you because you have something the pole dancers don't!

Answer 2

It is called high time that to tell your hubby that he needs to end his friendship with this guy that it is causing conflict in the marriage.

That the only guys at that age that hang out at those places are dirty old scum bag losers that have no life does he want to be associated with this type of person.

Tell him that you can no longer sit around when he take's off to the bars with this guy. That he is married and that he has no time to be hanging out at a GO-GO bar with his loser pal. Because he should be taking you out for a nice romantic meal.

If this friend of his has any common sense he will understand where you are coming from and that he will just stop talking to him.

If you let this behavior continue it will destroy your marriage.
Just tell your husband this is compromise in marriage sometimes ending contact with old chums is a part of marriage to make the marriage better and to make you happy. He is your husband it should be his soul duty to do anything to make you happy.

May God Bless You and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Tell your husband how you feel when he goes out with his single friends. I can see why you would feel uncomfortable as well and maybe advise him to meet new friends who are married and start going out with couples together. If you trust your husband you would know he wouldn't be doing anything wrong but hanging out with strippers that's too far. He has his limits and needs to respect you and the marriage as well. Hope you guys fix this problem.

Answer 4

It's tough to cope when your husband willing goes. He shouldn't, of course, but you cannot control what someone else does.

You don't want to come across as forbidding your husband from being friends with this guy. After all, your husband is a grown man, not your child. You've told him how it makes you feel, I hope. What your husband choses to do from that point is up to him.

You might suggest that your friend spend time at your house. You can invite your single girl friends, so the guy just may be willing to come to your home. Or, you can suggest that he and your husband do something else with their time or perhaps go out less often, if they must go continue to go out at all.

Answer 5

Maybe you shouldn't worry about it. What if your husband said your marriage was going to be ruined because you went shopping with your friends all the time? It wouldn't be a big deal if he got over it, right? Same thing goes here. If you try to cage him, you will push him away (force creates resistance, it's a universal law). Find something else to worry about.

Answer 6

Honestly you are out of control. You just married this man yet every week you have a question about what is right or wrong with you husband. Instead of asking everybody else's opinions SIT DOWN AND TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND. You aren't even giving him a chance to talk to you about the things that bother you so if you have alot of questions first try talking to him because all I see is a marriage falling apart with no communication invovled!!!!

Answer 7

wow! Let your husband go if he wants to. It isn't like he is going out with his friend to these bars to pick up on the dancers, he is going to enjoy time and atmosphere with his friends. Just because he is married and you are insecure doesn't mean he shouldn't be able to live or have fun. Perhaps you would feel less threaten if you went with him and actually saw what those places are like.

Answer 8

Other than the money, there is nothing wrong with a guy going to the strip club every now and then. It is even more fun when the wife comes along (not against her will, actually enjoying herself).

Answer 9

You need to put the breaks on your husband and tell him that you do not approve of him going to strip bars. If he values your marriage he'd better reconsider or face the consequences.

Answer 10

Cut the dude some slack! If he's honest and faithful to you, then you should have no worries. You have to remember in a healthy relationship, no one owns the other. Maybe this is more an insecurity problem you should resolve within yourself. Just because you go to a stripper bar with some pals doesn't mean anything, as long as he is faithful and comes home to you.