Husband in 40's, good job, kids, wife that adores him, wedding day promised to never join the army again, behind him, 15 years later he started to think, sleep, talk, the service. His entire family has begged him not to join. His promise to his wife means nothing. Stands to lose $$ if deployed. Wife full time home maker, good wife, he is going against all. Joined for 2 months (part time) before he told wife. Now he has turned cold, obsessed with his 'new' life. Wife fears mid-life crisis. He always was very moody before now displays further behaviour diffierences. Yet thinks the wife should continue with him as if he did not change their whole lives. Should the wife confront him and tell him to move out? Should she leave with the kids? Or is there hope for this marriage? The wife was honest up front that she did not want him to join when they married, could not be a military wife, she remembers how depressed, angry, drinker/ he use to be when he got out before.
2007-11-19 07:10:05 · 5 answers · asked by wife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he did it behind your back and did not tell you for two months that would be enough for me to leave or to tell him to. He should not do things that affect the entire family and not discuss it with you first or even inform you later. He is doing what he wants and the hell with the family. That is not a husband. I would say that there is not any hope for this marriage unless you are going to take this kind of treatment and let him jerk you around when he feels like it. Good luck to you.
2007-11-19 07:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should support him not be his MOMMY. Loose money when he deploys?? I dont think so. We get an extra $1000 a month for seperation pay from family. On top of what his Rank pay is and BAH.....You must not know alot about the military. He would be doing alot better in. I dont know how people make it with out the military. You will have no doctor bills and live on post for little to no money. Loose money? More like gain money and help his family out. Let him be in the army if he wants. This is his life too...not just yours. SUPPORT HIM and let him know you will go where he goes...any ARMY WIFE can tell you now...no civilan wife can ever make it in our world.
2007-11-19 15:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both husband and wife need to get together and find a compromise between them. He must have a reason why he wants to join the service. She needs to find out why he is willing to leave the family behind by joining the service.
2007-11-19 15:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can do this with no regard for wife and family he could not have been very married.
I think a divorce is in order.
2007-11-19 15:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Better or worse, richer or poorer. Thats right, those are just words.
2007-11-19 15:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋