My husband has a temper! When we argue he gets very angry and says that I need to shut up and usually leaves. He has never put his hands on me but last night he threw (and shattered) the remote control. Is this an acceptable level of anger. He has always been very responsible about leaving before it gets physical but he yells and leaves and nothing ever gets resolved. I don't think that I should have to always conceed to him to avoid any physical abuse. Am I wrong? or should he learn to better control his temper.
2007-11-19 07:03:48 · 9 answers · asked by reynaspoerl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To answer one posters question.
I have NEVER gotten physical with him. I do argue back and usually I do shut up but that is where I am having issues should I be responsible for keeping his temper in check?
2007-11-19 07:18:17 · update #1
You guys need to see a marriage counselor to learn some communication skills TOGETHER, and to learn what is triggering your husband's anger. He will also learn more productive ways of expressing that emotion.
2007-11-19 07:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by KristenCO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why you are arguing first before doing anything else. No temper is acceptable at any level between husband and wife. Your communication should be on a civil level with respect for each other. If you don't respect each other you will continue to argue and fight regardless how much you try.
2007-11-19 07:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not wrong. If he threw the remote, what next? He needs to go to Anger Management Classes or tell him that if he can't control his anger maybe you should/or he should move until it's under control. Good luck.
2007-11-19 07:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the main to coaching is retaining your cool. no count how unruly the class turns into you need to a minimum of seem to be calm. Public reflects of anger, frustration, or maybe sadness undermine your authority. As you have seen, young toddlers will attempt to take great factor approximately that. that is totally complicated each and every so often to maintain your voice point and to stay your hand from throwing some thing or maybe hitting a scholar. regardless of the shown fact that, it somewhat is a needed point of self administration that must be carried out to be an useful instructor. working example, enable us to faux which you're coaching a classification of intense schoolers and one scholar starts to blatantly text textile. you need to ask him as quickly as to place away the telephone (till he has performed this distinctive situations). At this universal warning you nonetheless be the place you have been once you spotted the offense. If he complains you in straightforward terms repeat the request. If he does no longer comply then you certainly walk over and ask him handy it over. If he refuses then merely deliver him to the theory's place of work or provide him detention. this could be a instructor dealing with the comparable situation in an incorrect way: in case you walk over to him as quickly as you spot what he's doing and the two provide him no warning or a brusque "attack" warning (which contain shouting, getting into his face, attempting to snatch the telephone away, and so on.). An attack warning in straightforward terms triggers his instinct to combat and to proceed to be obdurate. I even have digressed a lot. In essence, no anger displayed by potential of a instructor is acceptable by way of fact it subtracts from the training atmosphere and can be risky. instructors can reveal sadness and different subdued unfavorable emotions yet no longer anger or frustration. on your situation he could have brushed off people who started the hassle as quickly as they gave any indication of performing up.
2016-11-12 02:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he needs to deff control his temper better maybe the both of you can go to see a couples counselor or try some anger management classes
2007-11-19 08:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn to control his anger! Anger management courses could do him some good!
2007-11-19 07:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should suggest he attend anger management classes before it gets physical
2007-11-19 07:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naturally, this women-centric group will suggest it's his issue to be solved by education and counseling. I ask, what are you doing to cause this behavior? Are you the trigger? Did you throw the remote first?
It's ALWAYS the man's fault, isn't it ladies?
2007-11-19 07:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way out is to leave him before he hits you. is that what you want ?
2007-11-19 07:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋