What do you think of Marriage these days? Yes? No? Why or Why not?

Question

My mum and dad have been together for over 25 years, happily unmarried.
I don't plan to get married, but of course over time my views may change.
Marriage isn't what it used to be, and if I were ever proposed to I'd let my guy know, "Okay of course I'll marry you but I will never give you a divorce."
Is that crazy?
I dunno I just don't think I need a piece of paper to show my boy that our love is forever you know?
And I don't believe in divorce, hate the word and what it stands for.

Anyway just curious to know other peoples opinions.

I'll retract the 'marriage isn't what it used to be', sorry there are many many couples out there who stay married and truly love each other. I've just been seeing a lot of my friends go through divorce and it's sad.

Answer 1

Marriage is for healthy people who are strong mentally, physically, spiritually and intellectually. If you are a basketcase you won't get married anyway. Marriage requires real grit and determination, an ability to rise to the highest level of man/womanhood. The greatest societies in the world are built through marriage and childrearing. Mediocre societies have always given themselves over to the baser nature of their character. Poligamy, mistresses, handmaids, orgies, civil unions, etc. While there are tremendous pressures on marriages today, it only seperates the unworthy from the truly great. You cannot achieve a greater societal plane than a long-term, monogamous marriage with many children and grandchildren. You may think me a great fool. I challenge you to envision yourself old and dying in a hospital. What do you want to surround you? It may not be an issue right now, but I promise, it will be.

Answer 2

There are exceptions to everything. No rule is hard-and-fast.

If you consider marriage to be just a piece of paper - then don't get married. But the legions of people married - both happily and unhappily - know perfectly well it is much more than a piece of paper. It is the legal and cultural binding that cannot be acheived with just words.

I'm glad things are good for your parents.

A good marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world. It is NOT the same as just living together - no matter for how long or how many kids - it's just not the same. When you are married it's always in your mind that you are stuck to this person - for better or worse.

Answer 3

Marriage, yes. You have no idea how many "surprises" your parents will get should once something happens to one of them. The law will never recognize them as legally married, so no spousal social security benefits, no pension benefits for the spouse, no insurance benefits, no nothing. And there are a whole multitude of other things I didn't mention. Also, they are NOT each other's next of kin. So when police, doctors, etc. want to talk to the next of kin, it won't be the other parent. Where do you get the idea marriage wasn't what it used to be? My parents are going on 40 years next month. I've been married five. Most of my friends have been married several years.

Most shackups don't last more than a year or two. Your parents are one in a million. Some longer, but most marriages last a lifetime. I know, because of all the people I know that are married, they are staying married.

Answer 4

I think marriage is awesome it is different for everyone but really it is not the piece of paper that is marriage it is the
commitment you are making to that one special person. I think divorce is wrong as well and when I married it was for life and that is what I look at.

I think if you look at marriage as a new beginnig a new chapter of your life here on earth you will be pleasantly open to the idea of marriage and spending it with the love of your life and raising children in the blessing of God.

I think you would be right to tell your future BF how you feel about marriage and divorce it will give him a headsup that if he does propose he is expected to be in it for the longhaul.

Marriage is tough but it is also very rewarding plus if you think divorce is bad you must have some belief in God and that living in a relationship involving sex without marriage is wrong and is a sin. I'm happy for your parents but really they
should have tied the knot if not for themselves for you and to show you how things are done in the real world.

May you be blessed by God and live a truly great life in marriage or not.

Answer 5

If you were in a seperated person's shoes you would think differently. You would want to sign those papers especially if you have no children by this person. You never know if you are going to marry someone who later becomes an abuser. You still will not sign those papers? You do not need a paper to show how much you love your boyfriend you are correct on that one.

Answer 6

Marriage is something wonderful that involves alot of work and giving. The piece of paper is for commitent so the man won't bail out on you when you are ugly and full of stretch marks.

I do like your view on divorce, not expecting a divorce makes the marriage stronger.

But yes Iook forward to it, because through marriage I will have children and they will have children.
I look forward to that powerful bond with my husband, and yes we will have it!

Answer 7

Not so sure about that one anymore. Its too easy to get married and too easy to get divorced anymore. I was married and he left me, I was unhappy but thought I was obligated to stick to my vows. At this point in my life I don't see marriage as a necessity, I want to be in a relationship because I want to be and not because I have to be. I don't think a couple is any less committed without that paper and tax bracket.

Answer 8

Divorce can be justified in rare circumsatnces, Me I married for good and after 17 years do not think any different about our marriage.