What do you think of a 17 year old girl falling for and soon getting married to a 18 year old guy?
been together for a year and 9 months, and couldn't be happier.\
do you think it's too young, or what?
any opinion is appreciated. as well as words of wisdom.
thank you!!!
2007-11-19 06:42:37 · 18 answers · asked by nikkiebushnell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, go for it!
You've had more than enough time to focus just on "you". You're educated, you've traveled the world and you've had plenty of time to figure out what exactly it is you want to do with your life.
Seriously, your late teens are an ideal time to settle down and finally become responsible for someone besides yourself. By 17 you've done everything there is to do and seen everything there is to see, and I'm sure you've saved up a good size nest-egg. So money is no issue.
Plus -you're clock is ticking so hey, if not now -then probably never!
2007-11-19 07:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by blujello 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From past experience, don't tie yourself down at this young age. You need to do things that you will not do when you get married. Go places, work and experience what life can be like. Enjoy life, but don't tie to one person so soon in life. If this is the man of your dreams, he will be there when you grow farther as a person. You will change over time. I talked to a couple that had been married for 45 years, and both said they where not the same person they where years ago. Although they had a good life, they wished they would have waited and done more with their lives.
2007-11-19 14:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I was with my first bf for 7 years (15-22 years old) and thankfully we didn't marry. I am 30 and wouldn't even think about marrying someone after only 9 months....so I would advise a 17 and 18 year old against it as well. Take the age out of it and 9 months just isn't THAT long...regardless of how old you are...unless you have like a 2 year engagement.
2007-11-19 15:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO
Do not get married at 18! I would suggest not getting married until at the very least 27.
This is the time of your life that you learn about yourself and who you are. When you are 18 you want to feel independence from your parents and it is natural to want to show that independence by getting married.
But then 21 hits and even if you are not a drinker you will want to go out with your friends and dance and have fun. Right now you will probably say "Yeah, but I can do that with my bf" but that's when he (AND YOU) will get start to get jealous. Then what will happen is when you are about 24 or 25 (Maybe even 30 or 40) you are going to feel about him like you felt about your parents when you were 18. You are going to want to get away. You are going to want to be independent and that's when you will end up divorced. I have seen it so many times.
Please - Just stay in love with your bf right now. If you guys make it thru those tuff times at 18, 21, 25 ect. and still "couldn't be happier" then plan your wedding for when you are 27.
You'll thank me later!
2007-11-19 15:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Darla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's way to young. Despite what you think your both to young and immature to get married. Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment. Neither of you have any idea what supporting yourselves or children involves yet. Both of you will mature a lot in the next 7-8 years.
Try living together first, if your still together several years down the road then consider getting married. Don't legally commit yourself or have children until your at least 25 years old.
2007-11-19 14:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Fester Frump 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you need a couple more years to determine what you want.
I have never met an 18 year old who really knows where they will be emotionally in a couple years.
A couple of years of college will most certainly bring some light to the subject.
I think it makes sense to get well into adulthood and be supporting yourself before getting married.
It is this simple, You are very young. It may not seem like it now but trust me you are.You do not need to be in any hurry. If you are meant to stay together you will.
2007-11-19 15:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the young lady needs to reach 18 before marriage. Also, I think they need to establish a solid foundation first (education, steady job, transportation, a place to live). As long as they're adults, and they have it together, they should marry. They shouldn't worry about what others think. If they're making a mistake, they'll see it for themselves and learn from it, whether they're 18 or 118.
But personally, I think they should both wait a few more years.
2007-11-19 14:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young, not because you are immature, but because both of you will be changing into the people you will be permanently right now, but you are still in the process, and will probably grow apart. You will just become different people, that's all. Get married if you want, but wait a good 5 years to have children. Trust me.
2007-11-19 18:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Loving Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More times than not it will not work out. People change to much between the ages of 18 and 25. You don't even know who you really are yet, til you have a chance to live on your own away from your parents. If it's true love it will survive waiting and allowing yourself to find out who you are without anyone else telling you what to do or influencing you! Give yourself a chance to live first and then you have the best chance of having a good marriage! I got married at 18 and had my first child by 20 we divorced, now at 50 I STILL miss the fun I cheated myself out of by not living on my own. and still don't feel like I know who I really am, and it sucks!
2007-11-19 14:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it is too young, but if that is what they want and are happy with it then they are going to do it. If I was the father I would attempt to get them to stay together but not marry. Just let time play out. Why the rush to get married anyway? If they can stand the test of time then I am happy for them.
2007-11-19 14:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋