He told me along time ago that if his gaming caused a problem to let him know. Well, recently he's been chatting alot on Guild Wars and has made some new friends. I have no problem with that. But for the past couple of days he's tuned out me and his two kids. He doesn't remember conversations with us while he was playing the game. He's pretty much said that I was lying when I've told him about conversations that he's had with me and the kids. Last night I told him that his game was interfering with our relationship and with his relationship with his kids. He became furious and said alot of hurtful things to me. He told me while he was angry that he would just throw away the game. I don't want that, he loves the game, I just wanted to "wake him up" to reality. His recent behavior isn't normal for him. He always has time for us and normaly has no problem focusing on us when we need his attention when he's playing the game. He's angry with me..I don't know what to say or do...help!
2007-11-19 05:47:19 · 5 answers · asked by kchow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him you don't want him to throw away the game, but you are suggesting limits on how long he plays. Let him know that you're okay with him playing, but you're not okay with him treating you badly and accusing you of lying. Suggest he can play a certain amount of time per week (or per day, or whatever you think the two of you can compromise on). Reassure him that you love him and you're not mad at him, you're just concerned about his absence as a boyfriend and a father. Try not to make him feel bad about his desire to play the game; he'll resent you if you do. Remind him of his discussion with you about his gaming habits becoming a problem.
2007-11-19 05:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is suffering from an addiction. Ditching that game (and other computer games) would probably be a good idea. Would you believe a heroin addict who told you that they were cutting back to just weekends? Next up is to find some help dealing with this.
Here are a few links that might be able to help. Some of them are for program centers but they may have some information that is helpful.
http://www.aspeneducationgroup.com/gameaddiction/?gclid=CJvzhZnK6Y8CFQVlZQodK254Bw
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/07/03/health/webmd/main1773956.shtml
http://www.videogameaddiction.net/
http://www.addictioncomputergames.com/
2007-11-19 05:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a man with 2 children should grow up!
2007-11-19 05:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he said he'd throw out the game, let him do it. then after a week of "detox" he may be ready to play again... but in moderation.
cheers!
2007-11-19 05:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by michael 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him 2 grow up
2007-11-19 05:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by THE PSYCHO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋