what is a difference between a wife and a gf with livein relationship?

Answer 1

I was married for 20 years. There were major problems in my marriage but commitment and love wasn't one of them. There was never a concern whether he was there for me. Though it ended and we don't need to get into the details, I know full well what commitment is.

To this day, I believe in marriage. I've dated several people in the last 11 years. I dated and eventually lived with one for about 2 1/2 years. He'd never married, never had children and to this day, I don't believe he ever will. I believe he's one of those men that is incapable of the commitment and feeling love the way it should be. His opinion was always that if he gets 5 good years (or however many years he gets) with someone and it was good, well, then he had 5 good years. It's been 8 years, and I know for a fact if he had it do over again, he would have taken the plunge with me. It's too late now, I moved on a long time ago.

So, fast forward to today. I've been dating and living with a man for over a year. He's also never been married but had a child who he is raising (well, we are raising). He's always said that he never married because he'd never met the right woman for him. Now, there's lots I could say about that, but knowing what he's been through, I do understand and agree that none of his previous situations were good for him.

Ok, so now it's him and me. I know full well he respects and loves me. He maintains that we are getting married and that he has a plan and I do believe it. Though, I will be honest with and tell you that until that happens, I will always wonder if he thinks I'm good enough. I know I'm good enough but if he never proposes, I will utlimately believe he didn't think I was.

So, here's the difference - at least in my honest opinion. If you love her and you want with all your heart to raise this child together, you need to jump in with both feet because anything else is just sending her a message that you're not convinced that she's the one for you. You cannot imagine how much that hurts. Marriage is difficult, it's hard and it's a hell of a thing to keep going from one year to the next. If you're really, really lucky and you work hard when you need to, you make it what it needs to be.

If you're mature enough to realize that all good things take work and that the grass is never really any greener on the other side or with someone else, you can have a happy, fullfilling marriage. You, your girlfriend, and that little baby you're bringing into the world together need to stand as one and in my honest opinion, you only do that in marriage.

Good luck.....

Answer 2

Oh, not much...other than a whole mess of legal things and moral things and oh ya, commitment. A live in is in all sense of the word, temporary! While a spouse is one to whom you have made a legal and moral commitment for better or worse to saty with until death. Depending on how seriously you take your commitment this can be a permanent arrangement.

A husb and wife can plan goals and raise a family knowing that the other will be there to support them. A gf is keeping her fingers crossed and has to always be thinking that she has to be prepared for that day.

Love also has a lot to do with either arrangement. If you truly are in love it won't make a big difference either way.

Answer 3

The promise of until death do us part..in good times and in bad... in good health and in bad health.. for richer for poorer.

If the plan is to dump someone out onto the street later on ..then the "long term relationship " is done.

The difference is immense and if people who loved each other truly married.. the divorce ( the easy out plan ) would be fairly unknown. Only mature people should marry..the kind who know the difference between sex and love making ( those are not the same ) .. and between for now and forever and to cherish... and so on. People who marry thinking he or she can get out of it later do not understand and do not want to grasp the words Cherish ..Honor .. Devotion .. Respect.

People..in particular men, who respect women.. should not involve women in the downgrade of "long term relationship " because that is to drown her in disrespect and only implies use of her until she is not good enough anymore. Such men are usually not able to grasp the depth required within themselves and in others needed to love one another. Women should avoid such men. And any desparate man who would say to himself well I want her for as long as she will let me keep her.. is shallow and has little self respect for himself..and little for her thinking she is unable to sustain a working forever relationship.. ( marriage ) with him.

Answer 4

A live-in girlfriend does all of the things a wife does without any of the benefits. A man is "safe" because he isn't putting his pension, 401k, real estate holdings, or anything else on the line. All of those things spell security to a man, so if he isn't putting them on the line, how commited and in love is he?

Answer 5

It's obvious that marriage is the real deal and live in girlfriend is similar to being married except there are no ties between them and he or she can walk out of the relationship whenever he or she pleases. Most people do move in together before they get married to get a feel of married life.

Answer 6

a wife is much different you say vows under God and u promise to stay with that person forever no matter what. a live in girlfriend is just there and can leave whenever she pleases and theres no real commitment

Answer 7

If he dies, Social Security, Pension, 401k, Insurance policy, Veterans, and Real Estate benifits. If it's a divorce Alimony, division of properties and assets.

Answer 8

Alimony

Answer 9

A true commitment for the rest of your life.

Answer 10

Commitment - wise.. nothing.. I will treat my boyfriend with the same respect, loyalty and love today, as I will when he takes on the title of 'husband'.