im five months along, and it seems like a few weeks after i told him i was pregnant, no more sex.. we used to have it 4 or 5 times a week. now its more like twice a month.. if im lucky.. i feel rejected, and he just wants me to stop bugging him about it.. he never actually told me why. im assuming its because im pregnant.. I dont think hes cheating by the way.. of coarse anything is possible.. do other men feel this way about their pregnant girlfriends or wives?
2007-11-19 05:01:30 · 13 answers · asked by ~Kim~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he already told me that its not because he thinkds hes going to hurt the baby..
and thank you for the congrats!
2007-11-19 05:06:19 · update #1
HE IS PROB THINKING THAT HE CAN HARM THE BABY DOING SOMETHING. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONAL, JSUT LET HIM KNOW HOW THAT IS MAKING YOU FEEL AND THAT THE BABY WILL BE FINE. I HIGHLY DOUBT IT IS YOU BEING PREGNANT. CONGRATS!
2007-11-19 05:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by *Momma and wifey* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is differnt for both the men and women durring pegnancy.
My first trimester
Uggg sex was my exact thought. How on earth could he find me sexy as I hang my head in the toliet and barf 20 times a day
Second Trimester
I dont recall leaving the bed room...I do how ever recall him trying to escape :P That and finding many new positions as the belly got in the way a lot
Third....
We were put off on sex for a few weeks and that I think really scared my BF. He was defitnly scared when we got the ok again in fact it took him a week to even say he wanted to have sex. Than things went as close to normal as I think they could get in the thrid tirmester...till an interal exam
I was 1cm dialted. But had been for a while. The only problem was this time the doctor said " I can feel babies head"
My bf has been terrified ever since she said that. We had sex once and he felt horrible afterwards cause he thinks he hit the kid in the head.
I'm sure your Bf is just the same as mine....worried.
2007-11-19 13:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of first time dads are scared about harming the baby or feeling odd about being sexual with their wife/partner because they feel the baby is "there". Explain to him that the baby can't tell you're having sex, that he cannot harm the baby and that sex during pregnancy can be wonderful for both partners involved. The feeling is much more intense for the females due to increased blood flow and for the dads they can just have fun without worrying about "knocking you up" as you can't get pregnant while you already are! If he isn't open to listening try going out and buying some nice lingerie that will accentuate and compliment your expanding figure and prove you can still be playful and flirty even though you're expecting
2007-11-19 13:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Piparis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing and would love to know the answer. I know my husband isn't cheating. He was not like this during our 1st pregnancy, we had sex more than ever then. Now, the 2nd time around, I'm lucky if I get it once a week. It's driving me crazy, I just started an argument over it last night. It just makes me feel like he's not attracted to me b/c I'm as big as a house.
***Edit.... thinking more about this prompted me to ask a similar question in the marriage & divorce section.
2007-11-19 13:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this fairly often. Some men have issues sleeping with their pergnancy girlfriends/wives for various reasons. Tell him what how you feel and that it bothers you. Try telling him that he will NOT harm the baby in any way and that it will help you in the end because having sex through out the pregnancy makes delivery easier.
2007-11-19 13:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 weeks now and the same thing with my husband. Its terriable feeling, I break his balls about it alot and make him feel guilty. Believe I know for a fact he isn't cheating, he just gets grossed out that when were having sex that is son is right there. Kinnda funny.
2007-11-19 13:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by shorte716 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some men get creeped out about the fact that there baby is so clse to their member... try talking to him about it without getting emotional or anything... sometimes their fears are easy to expell and sometimes well, they arent... patience.
PS. i think u are sooo lucky, mine wont keep his hands off of me, and i was super horny until about 2 weeks ago then being touched started to bug me... now it is like 3 or 4 imes a night... IM TIRED DANG IT>...
2007-11-19 13:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kim B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem with my husband. We use to have an awesome sex life, having sex whenever we could but now we come home,eat dinner and go to bed (to sleep,thats it) He has a very psychically demanding job and does work very long hours but still it wouldn't kill him to show me a lil attention in that department! So now I just 'take it upon myself' to see that i'm satisfied and thats what I would recommend to you! No shame in getting what you want before the lil one gets here and you have no time for yourself!
2007-11-19 13:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Just Call Me Jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men think they will hurt the baby or something. My husband just is very stressed and doesn't have much desire anymore. Maybe your BF is stressed about the baby.
2007-11-19 13:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a talk with him....to bad if he doesnt want to listen. But perhaps hes in shock, or some guys dont want to have sex because they feel uncomfortable knowing theirs a baby inside. either way u need to sit him down & talk.
i actually wish my bf was that way. because he wants it everyday & have had a huge sex decrease!
2007-11-19 13:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lils 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋