im 16 almost 17, pregnant and getting married?

Question

im going 2 get married by a judge, i live in indiana, will the judge marry me if im pregnant? When he marrys me am i emanicpated?

Answer 1

I don't know if there are laws about getting married under the age of 18 (needing a parental/guardian consent maybe)...you can definitely get married pregnant that has nothing to do with anything (well maybe in a religious ceremony it does) but by a judge it should be fine...so who do you want to be emancipated from...your parents?

Answer 2

Dude. Fail to remember the wedding for now. Get on over to the Parenting & being pregnant board. Your lifestyles is about to blow up in approaches you would not feel. Don't get me wrong, parenthood is essentially the most necessary gift. However, the things you have got to do now are: select a pediatrician Tour the health facility that she will probably be giving birth in be certain any person is arranging a child bathe so you're going to have the basics (auto seat, crib, bottles, blankets and so on). Take some newborn parenting courses. The sanatorium could have free ones. Buy a new mother present to your spouse. (toddlers birthstone is a satisfactory low cost alternative). Lower your expenses !!! Save money !!! If you guys can stand your dwelling hindrance now then I say stay. If not, go find a situation that suits your desires and rent it. Marriage will have to be the least of your issues proper now.

Answer 3

I second the, "I'm sad" statement. You have a lot of living to do. A lot of things to see and people to meet. Why tie yourself down like this. You are already pregnant- and you can still do everything you want if you have a child it will just be a lot harder. Why get married now? When you are not even out of high school? Lean on your family and friends, take care of your child and finish your youth. I know absolutely nothing about your baby's father. But why don't you give it some time before you take such a huge leap? You may still want to marry him in 5 years, and you may not. Not harm in getting your education and finding yourself a bit more before you take that step.

Answer 4

I feel very sad for you I find it sick when babies are having babies. Really do you not have any morals or did you just want to rebel against your parents. Do not marry this guy just becuase the guy feels trapped by the pregnancy ask him if you put the kid up for an adoption if he would mind. Your young and your being extremely foolish. I think you really need to look t your future your still in high school and need to finish school remember a child is for life are you ready for the financial hardship of raising a kid I thinnk not just diapers alone for the first month will run you about 300 dollars can you afford that can he.

I think you should consider giving th3e bay up to a couple thqat is more capable of raising it and finish school get a career and a life then think of marriage and the kids and the house with the white picket fence.

Really at this moment you are confused and the shock of pregnancy is blowing your mind. Please grow-up and think of this baby.

HAVE YOU ASKED THE FATHER IF HE FEELS LIKE HE HAS TO MARRY YOU BECAUSE HE GOT YOU PREGNANT. ALOT OF GUYS THINK THEY MUST DO THIS
BECAUSE THEY ARE TRAPPED. IF HE IS FEELING THIS WAY THEN HE IS NOT YOUR ONE AND ONLY HE IS GUY THAT GOT LUCKY WITH YOU AND WELL SH IT HAPPENS.

Answer 5

i was in the exact same situation as you let me tell you DONT GET MARRIED PLEASE i got married a yr after i had my child at 18 and even then it was a mistake you have to live a life with the person and work and see how things will work out with the child befor you decide that you couldnt have gotten to know him that well before you got pregnant if by the time your 21 you still want to get married do it and let it be beautifull untill then let me tell you getting married takes 20 min and maybe 100 in front of a judge divorce takes a lot longer 40 times or more the money

Answer 6

I would do what I could to find a happy middle until the baby is born. Get back to yourself THEN decide if you want to marry.

You are doing adult things, you need adult decisions. Glean (ask) from experienced mothers and married couples on this.

I can tell you I'd be terrrrrribly sad if this was my daughter who is 16. When you become a mother of a 16 yr old you will understand. Nothing bad about you, just the situation.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

You sound like you already know that you're headed for a rough time. Just look at it like this... You're already pregnant, so that can't happen, but you're not stuck in a failing marriage making more stress for you, so don't do it. I know that mayb right now, it seems like it's the right thing to do being pregnant and all, but trust me honey, you're not ready yet. This isn' t just another adult telling you this because we like saying it either. I'm saying it because I went through it and it all seems ok (the idea). However, the reality was totally different from what the idea of it was. We loved each other, we did everything together, we have both shared really bad things in our lives together, we were both very mature for our ages and even as an adult now, I can actually say that when I look back on my situation, we did have the real idea about love and relationships. We had every problem that could arise already figured out, talked about and a plan for fixing it. Unfortunately Real Adult Life stepped into our lives and turned everything upside down. We were not as ready for the relationship as we thought. We loved each other, but the stress of having a teenage love and trying to maintain things financially, taking care of the baby and still wanting to have fun (because we were teenagers), just didn't last. We lasted two years after the baby and moving in together. We even managed to have counseling to better deal with things, but it was almost as though it just wasn't supposed to be and it killed us both, beause we really did love each other.
Needless to say, we broke up and he was still around to be a dad, but things had just fell apart for us and eventually we grew apart. I just didn't have that same oowie goowie lovey feeling for him any more. I didn't even feel it happening and I fought the feeling too, but to no avail it was just gone... and guess what?? He began to feel the same too. Neither of us ever thought it would turn out that way. We're friends and parents to this day, but I don't have any romantic feelings towards him what so ever and we talk and laugh about it all the time. He's married with a family and I'm in a long term relationship with a man I love dearly.
I for the most was a single mom and at times it wasn't easy. He did what he could do when he could do it and if it wasn't for the parents both mine and his... It would have been so much worse. I understand that right now, this may seem like the best thing for you because I don't know your current family situation with you parents, so I can't say go talk with your mom. But if you have any adults in your life that you can talk with, I would suggest doing that before making even a bigger mess of your life.

Good Luck

Answer 8

Listen... a baby on the way, and your going to get married all in the same year? My friend just got married in july, and she just had her baby sometime in the begining of Oct. she regrets it. She wishes she would have waited, and now she has teeth to get fixed becaues the baby took most of her calcium. The insurance that her husband had got messed up, and the baby delivery wasn't covered by his insurance. You have 30 days after you have your baby to get insurance on her/him. They now live together and she don't like where they live. She now wants to move back home to SC with her mom and get a divorce because the dad doesn't make enought money to take care of them.
I believe you have to have your parents signature for you to get married and then when you are married your on your own. Please believe me when I say this...... Stay on your parents insurance as long as you can, offer to pay them the difference if there is any, and don't be to quick to get married. I know it sounds all to good to be true, but unless you know for a fact that your babies daddy has good insurance for you and the baby, you need to check into that pleace before you go and tie the knot. Oh and not to mention that his insurance will go up any where from $250.00 to $300.00 a month because he is going to have to have the family plan. I would check into it and make sure this is something you can afford, if not don't get married just because your pregnant. He is still going to be the babies daddy no matter what. You have to also think about the bills. Rent,food, electric,gas,water,cable, and insurance all soming out of his pay check. I would sit down with him and talk to him about maybe in two or three years you can get married. Don't be in to much of a hurry to grow up. My g/f told me that she wishes she would have waited to get married, at least if she had to she could get help from social services. Now she can't because she got married and her hubby brings in to much money monthly to get any kind of help. But you know it doen't matter because they are having a hard time paying for everything, even diapers for the baby. She doesn't regret the guy she married there is a difference there. She regrets getting married so quickly.

Please Think about it?????????
Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 9

I'm so sorry. Meaning I'm sorry that your only 16 and pregnant. That is a child having a child...it's going to be harder than you can imagine honey. I am not sorry that you are keeping the child but you are in a way going to be playing house...like you probably were last year or two years ago with your friends!

Answer 10

I would recommend that you wait till your 25 and decide if you want to get married. Marriage is really hard and being a new mom will create more stress in your life.